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Who Tells You the Truth?

“Stupid people always think they are right. Wise people listen to advice.” (Proverbs 12:15 (GNT)

Every week you help people see what they can’t see on their own. From the pulpit, in a counseling appointment, over coffee, in a hospital hallway, you name the blind spots other people miss. It’s part of your calling. But here’s a quiet question worth sitting with this morning: Who does that for you?

We all have blind spots. There are things in each of us that need correcting, and we just can’t see them. Sometimes we don’t look closely enough. Sometimes, if we’re honest, we’d rather not look at all. We settle into habits that feel comfortable, and comfortable is usually where growth quietly stalls. That’s true for the people in your church. It’s true for you and me too.

God never meant for us to grow alone. He puts people around us who care enough to be honest with us. For a pastor, though, those people can be hard to come by. You’re the one everyone else leans on, so it starts to feel easier, even safer, to keep a little distance. Trouble is, distance is right where blind spots like to hide.

So let me just ask: Is there anyone who will level with you? Not someone who just says what you want to hear, but a friend who thinks enough of you to say the hard thing kindly. If nobody has that kind of access to you, chances are you’re carrying mistakes you can’t even see yet.

Pride is what makes this so hard. It puts us on the defensive and quietly talks us into believing we’ve got nothing left to learn. It builds walls, holds people at arm’s length, and then leaves us wondering why God feels distant, when part of how he speaks is through the very people we’re keeping out. Humility goes the other way. It leaves the door open and says, “Go ahead. Tell me the truth. I can take it.”

God wants to speak through you. He also wants to speak to you. One of those takes courage. The other takes humility. You need both to go the distance in ministry.

Maybe a face already came to mind while you were reading. A friend, a fellow pastor, your spouse, someone who’s earned the right to be honest with you. This week, give that person the opportunity to speak truth to you. Ask them, “What do you see in me that I might be missing?” And then, as hard as it is, just listen.

When you’re willing to ask and humble enough to really hear it, God can use those words to breathe life back into you, the same way he’s used yours for so many other people.

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Who Tells You the Truth?

Who Tells You the Truth?

“Stupid people always think they are right. Wise people listen to advice.” (Proverbs 12:15 (GNT)Every week you help people see what they can’t see on their own. From the pulpit, in a counseling appointment, over coffee, in a hospital hallway, you name the blind spots other people miss. It’s part of your calling. But here’s a quiet question worth sitting with this morning: Who does that for you?We all have blind spots. There are things in each of us that need correcting, and we just can’t see them. Sometimes we don’t look closely enough. Sometimes, if we’re honest, we’d rather not look at all. We settle into habits that feel comfortable, and comfortable is usually where growth quietly stalls. That’s true for the people in your church. It’s true for you and me too.God never meant for us to grow alone. He puts people around us who care enough to be honest with us. For a pastor, though, those people can be hard to come by. You’re the one everyone else leans on, so it starts to feel easier, even safer, to keep a little distance. Trouble is, distance is right where blind spots like to hide.So let me just ask: Is there anyone who will level with you? Not someone who just says what you want to hear, but a friend who thinks enough of you to say the hard thing kindly. If nobody has that kind of access to you, chances are you’re carrying mistakes you can’t even see yet.Pride is what makes this so hard. It puts us on the defensive and quietly talks us into believing we’ve got nothing left to learn. It builds walls, holds people at arm’s length, and then leaves us wondering why God feels distant, when part of how he speaks is through the very people we’re keeping out. Humility goes the other way. It leaves the door open and says, “Go ahead. Tell me the truth. I can take it.”God wants to speak through you. He also wants to speak to you. One of those takes courage. The other takes humility. You need both to go the distance in ministry.Maybe a face already came to mind while you were reading. A friend, a fellow pastor, your spouse, someone who’s earned the right to be honest with you. This week, give that person the opportunity to speak truth to you. Ask them, “What do you see in me that I might be missing?” And then, as hard as it is, just listen.When you’re willing to ask and humble enough to really hear it, God can use those words to breathe life back into you, the same way he’s used yours for so many other people.
Stop Treating the Sermon like the Whole Ballgame

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Practice for Eternity

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