
Pastor, some of the most painful moments in ministry are the ones you never planned for.
You didn’t ask for the conflict. You didn’t expect the criticism. You didn’t see the disappointment coming. One day you were serving faithfully, and the next day you were wondering how things got so complicated.
When you’re in that place, it’s easy to start asking hard questions. Why is this happening? Did I miss something? Did I mess something up? You may even wonder whether God is really using this season at all.
Here’s something you need to remember:
God never wastes a hurt.
What you’re going through is not random. It hasn’t slipped past God’s attention, and it hasn’t arrived without purpose. Even when the situation feels confusing or unfair, God is still at work—shaping you and preparing you for what he wants to do next.
The truth is, God often does his deepest work in our lives through the very experiences we would never choose for ourselves. And if you’re willing to trust him in this season, he can use even your worst experiences to shape your ministry in lasting ways.
If you’re in a painful season right now, you may not need all the answers. But you do need a few solid truths to hold onto—truths that steady you when circumstances feel uncertain and remind you of what God is really doing.
There are a few things God wants you to remember in seasons like this. These three truths won’t make the pain disappear. They won’t fix everything overnight. But they can help you see your situation through God’s eyes and trust him as he uses even your hardest experiences to shape your ministry.
Truth #1: This Isn’t Random
Pastor, what you’re walking through right now is not an accident. It didn’t sneak past God or catch him off guard, and it didn’t arrive without purpose.
If you belong to Jesus, nothing enters your life—or your ministry—without your Father’s permission. God is paying attention to every detail, even the ones that confuse you. The Bible tells us this in Romans 8:28, “We know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose" (NIV).
That doesn’t mean God caused what’s happening. It doesn’t mean he enjoys your pain. And it doesn’t mean this season is his ideal plan for your life. But it does mean that he is fully aware of it and fully present in it.
Truth #2: God Is Not the Author—He Is the Redeemer
When ministry hurts, it’s natural to assume God must be behind what you’re experiencing. But there’s an important distinction you need to remember. God is sovereign, yet he is not the author of sin, injustice, or cruelty. He never delights in your pain, and he never asks you to pretend that what hurts doesn’t hurt.
When you sin, that’s not God’s will. When others wound you, misunderstand your motives, or speak against you, that’s not God’s will either. And when pressure builds because you’ve been carrying more than you were meant to carry, that strain isn’t something God designed.
But God does allow things he does not approve of—and then he redeems them.
That means even painful experiences can be used by God for a greater purpose. Ask Joseph. Standing in front of the brothers who had wronged him, he said: “Even though you planned evil against me, God planned good to come out of it. This was to keep many people alive, as he is doing now" (Genesis 50:20 GW).God takes what is broken and brings healing, what is confusing and brings clarity, and what feels unfair and uses it to shape something good in your life and ministry.
Redemption doesn’t mean the pain didn’t matter. It means God refuses to waste it. Even when circumstances feel unfair or confusing, you can trust that God is at work in what he allows, using it to shape you and prepare you for what’s next.
Truth #3: God Is Shaping You for What’s Next
One of the hardest parts of painful seasons in ministry is not knowing how long they will last or what they are producing. When the pressure doesn’t lift and the answers don’t come, it can feel like you’re stuck—like this moment is the end of the story.
It isn’t.
God often does his deepest work in us before he does his most visible work through us. He shapes the heart long before he changes the situation. What feels like delay is often preparation.
Throughout Scripture, God brings life out of what looks finished. He uses loss, limitation, and weakness to form leaders who are more dependent on him and more compassionate toward others.
That shaping work is not wasted time. It’s how God deepens your faith, strengthens your character, and prepares you for what lies ahead. Even when you can’t see the connection yet, God is forming something lasting in you.
This season will not define you. But God can use it to refine you. And when he is finished with what he’s doing in your heart, you’ll be better prepared to serve with humility, wisdom, and grace in whatever comes next.
Pastor, take heart.
What you’re facing today may feel heavy, confusing, or unfair—but it is not meaningless. God is with you in it. He is shaping you through it. And he is not wasting a single moment of your faithfulness.
You may not yet see how this season fits into the bigger picture. But one day, you’ll look back and recognize that God was doing more than you realized—forming you, steadying you, and preparing you for what only he could see ahead.
Until then, keep trusting him. Keep walking faithfully.
And remember: God never wastes a hurt.