
God has given every one of us a responsibility to pass on what we know to those who are younger than we are. It’s not just a responsibility for parents; it’s for all of us. But, pastor, it is especially important in ministry.
One of the greatest things you will ever do is invest in people whose lives and ministries will outlast you.
God has shown you things through his Word, through ministry, through pain, through mistakes, and through the people you have shepherded. He never meant for those lessons to stop with you. He wants you to pass them on to the next generation.
So how do you know what you need to pass on? Look at what Jesus passed on to his followers.
Jesus built knowledge, perspective, convictions, skills, and character into the leaders who followed him. And for decades at Saddleback, we tried to build our ministry around those same five building blocks.
Every pastor ought to be thinking about how to help people grow in these areas.
1. Help people grow in knowledge.
The Bible says, “It is better—much better—to have wisdom and knowledge than gold and silver” (Proverbs 16:16 GNT).
In other words, it’s better to be wise than wealthy; it’s better to have knowledge than money.
How do you help younger people grow in knowledge? There are a lot of ways. You take them places with you. You expose them to new experiences. You put good books into their hands. You pass along the resources that have shaped your life.
I have planned to pass my library on to my children. Why? Because what I read has shaped who I am. Passing on those books is one way of passing on what matters to me.
But the most important way you help someone grow in knowledge is by modeling a love of learning yourself. Learning is contagious. If you stop learning, the people around you will eventually stop learning and growing too.
For years, I told our staff, “All leaders are learners.”
That is true in every area of life, but it is especially true in ministry. If you are going to build into the next generation, they need to see that you are still growing, still reading, still listening, still learning.
2. Help people gain perspective.
Perspective is seeing life from God’s point of view.
That’s not natural for any of us. We all tend to see life from our own limited viewpoint. And that’s one reason we get into trouble.
Knowledge answers the “what” questions of life. Perspective answers the “why” questions. The more you help someone see life from God’s viewpoint, the more they will understand what matters and why it matters.
So how do you help younger people gain perspective?
First, introduce them to the Bible. God’s perspective is found in God’s Word. If people are not learning to read Scripture, think biblically, and hear God’s truth for themselves, then they are going to let the culture shape how they see everything else.
Second, introduce them to wise people. The quality of a person’s life will be shaped by the relationships that person chooses. If you want younger leaders to grow, help them get around people with wisdom, maturity, and spiritual depth.
3. Help people build convictions.
The people who change the world, for good or for bad, are people with deep convictions.
They are not casual about what they believe. They are not drifting with the current. They are anchored.
If young people do not develop convictions, then the culture will hand them its own. And the values of the culture have not changed much. They still come down to four basic things: pleasure, possessions, prestige, and power.
I want to feel good. I want to have more. I want people to admire me. I want to stay in control.
Those are weak foundations for a life. And they are disastrous foundations for ministry.
The Message paraphrase says, “Hold tight to your convictions, give it all you’ve got, be resolute” (1 Corinthians 16:13).
So how do you help people develop convictions?
First, you share your convictions passionately. Convictions are caught more than they are taught. If what you believe matters deeply to you, the people around you will feel it.
But even more important, convictions must be modeled. You must be what you want them to become.
Jesus said, “For their sake I dedicate myself completely to you, in order that they, too, may be truly dedicated to you” (John 17:19 GNT). Jesus modeled conviction for his disciples. That is now our job with the next generation.
Pastor, people need more than your teaching. They need your example.
4. Help people develop skills.
Skills answer the “how” of life.
The next generation does not just need truth to believe. They need abilities to practice. They need to learn how to study the Bible, solve problems, work with people, manage conflict, lead a group, serve faithfully, and handle responsibility.
Hard work matters, but hard work alone does not guarantee success. Ecclesiastes 10:10 says, “If the ax is dull and its edge unsharpened, more strength is needed, but skill will bring success” (NIV).
Skill matters.
So how do you help younger people develop skills? There are three ways.
First, help them understand their SHAPE—their spiritual gifts, heart, abilities, personality, and experiences. That is how God has wired them. If you want to change the direction of a young person’s life, help that person discover how God made them.
This is the way the Lord teaches us to raise children, too. Proverbs 22:6 says, “Train a child in the way he should go” (GW). The Hebrew idea there points to a person’s natural bent. In other words, pay attention to how God wired that person. If you try to force someone into a mold God did not design, you are going to frustrate everybody involved.
Second, help them practice what they are good at. Skills do not develop in theory. They develop through repetition. Whether someone is learning to teach, organize, write, serve, or lead, growth comes by doing it again and again.
Third, trust them with responsibility. At some point, you have to let people do the work.
People grow when responsibility becomes real.
I have often said that if you treat kids like babies, you are going to have to diaper them the rest of your life. The same principle applies in leadership development. If you never trust people with real responsibility, you should not be surprised when they never mature.
Pastor, if you want the next generation to grow, give them room to try, room to fail, and room to learn.
5. Help people grow in character.
This is the pinnacle.
Why? Because character is what you take into eternity.
The Message paraphrase says, “Take on an entirely new way of life—a God-fashioned life, a life renewed from the inside and working itself into your conduct as God accurately reproduces his character in you” (Ephesians 4:23-24).
One of God’s great purposes in your life is to make you like Christ. That is what character is all about.
So how do you help younger leaders grow in character? Let me mention two ways.
First, protect their minds. What goes into a mind eventually comes out in a life. Proverbs 15:14 says, “A wise person is hungry for knowledge, while the fool feeds on trash” (NLT). If people are constantly feeding on garbage, they should not be surprised when their character weakens. As Paul taught in Philippians 4, encourage those you lead to feed on “whatever is true, pure, right, holy, friendly, and proper” (Philippians 4:8 CEV).
Second, do not protect them from every difficulty. We grow through hard times. We build character, not when everything goes our way, but when it does not.
Failure is not fatal. Everybody has to learn that.
If you rescue people from every struggle, you may spare them some pain, but you will also keep them from some growth. God often uses pressure, disappointment, and hardship to deepen character in ways comfort never can.
Pastor, one loving thing you can do is walk with people through difficulty without always removing the difficulty.
Any time you are around someone younger than you, you have an opportunity to do these five things. Whether it is a young person in your church, one of your own children, a younger staff member, a new believer, or somebody in your community who needs an older, wiser voice, there is probably someone in your life right now who needs help growing in knowledge, gaining perspective, building convictions, developing skills, and forming character.
A lot of what fills our days will not matter five years from now. Some of it will not matter five minutes from now.
But when you build into a life, that lasts.
It has eternal implications.