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What to Do When You Feel Like Giving Up

Pastor, the mission God has given you isn’t easy. Ministry is filled with delayed answers, slow progress, and seasons that test your endurance. When you’re discouraged, your vision blurs. That's why learning to resist discouragement is absolutely essential for finishing the race God has set before you.

Discouragement may feel like it just happens to you—but it’s more than a feeling. It’s a choice. And with God’s help, you can choose a different path. Here are five truths to help you keep moving forward in faith, even when your situation feels unfair.

1. Discouragement is one of Satan’s greatest tools.

If Satan can’t get you to procrastinate on your mission, he’ll try to get you to quit altogether. Discouragement neutralizes leaders. It’s the opposite of faith. When you say, “It can’t be done,” you’re no longer trusting what God has already said he will do.

Galatians 6:9 says: “Let’s not get tired of doing what is good” (Galatians 6:9 NLT). That’s hard sometimes, because the right thing is rarely the easy thing. But that’s the kind of perseverance that God honors and uses.

2. Discouragement is always a choice.

It might not feel like it, but you can choose what you focus on. Will you focus on your problems or your purpose? On your weakness or God’s power?

You can’t always control what happens around you, but you can control what you think about. Discouragement begins with discouraging thoughts—and those thoughts can be replaced.

As Paul says in Philippians 4:13, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” (NKJV). Faith starts with optimism. And that optimism isn’t naivety, but trust that God is still at work even when you don’t see it.

3. Endurance turns ordinary people into great ones.

Great people aren’t born—they’re shaped through persistence. Think about a sculptor chiseling stone. The first strike of the hammer doesn’t reveal a masterpiece. It takes repeated effort. That’s how God shapes your life too—slowly, steadily, through faithful steps of obedience.

Nothing worthwhile ever comes easy. You need spiritual endurance to keep going when you feel like giving up. When you feel like quitting, remember this: You’re not a failure until you quit.

4. God’s delays are not his denials.

Maybe you’re praying for something and it still hasn’t happened. That doesn’t mean God has said no—it might just mean “not yet.”

In the Living BIble paraphrase, Habakkuk 2:3 says, “These things I plan won’t happen right away. Slowly, steadily, surely, the time approaches when the vision will be fulfilled. If it seems slow, do not despair, for these things will surely come to pass. Just be patient! They will not be overdue a single day!”

At Saddleback, we waited 13 years without a building of our own. But God had a better plan—one that wasn’t even visible when we started. That’s true for your ministry, too. Be patient. God is never late.

5. God tests your patience to grow your faith.

Spiritual maturity means learning the difference between a “no” and a “not yet.” God doesn’t test you so he can learn something new—he tests you so you can learn something new. He wants to reveal your commitment and his faithfulness in the process.

You won’t be tested just once. You’ll be tested over and over again—not to discourage you, but to build endurance in you. And you can take it. Why? Because God is with you. He will strengthen you.

Don’t give up!

You may feel like you’re at the end of your rope. But you’re not alone. God is with you—and he’s not finished with you.

Don’t drop out of the race. Keep pressing forward. Resist discouragement and finish what God called you to do.

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What to Do When You Feel Like Giving Up

What to Do When You Feel Like Giving Up

Pastor, the mission God has given you isn’t easy. Ministry is filled with delayed answers, slow progress, and seasons that test your endurance. When you’re discouraged, your vision blurs. That's why learning to resist discouragement is absolutely essential for finishing the race God has set before you.Discouragement may feel like it just happens to you—but it’s more than a feeling. It’s a choice. And with God’s help, you can choose a different path. Here are five truths to help you keep moving forward in faith, even when your situation feels unfair.1. Discouragement is one of Satan’s greatest tools.If Satan can’t get you to procrastinate on your mission, he’ll try to get you to quit altogether. Discouragement neutralizes leaders. It’s the opposite of faith. When you say, “It can’t be done,” you’re no longer trusting what God has already said he will do.Galatians 6:9 says: “Let’s not get tired of doing what is good” (Galatians 6:9 NLT). That’s hard sometimes, because the right thing is rarely the easy thing. But that’s the kind of perseverance that God honors and uses.2. Discouragement is always a choice.It might not feel like it, but you can choose what you focus on. Will you focus on your problems or your purpose? On your weakness or God’s power?You can’t always control what happens around you, but you can control what you think about. Discouragement begins with discouraging thoughts—and those thoughts can be replaced.As Paul says in Philippians 4:13, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” (NKJV). Faith starts with optimism. And that optimism isn’t naivety, but trust that God is still at work even when you don’t see it.3. Endurance turns ordinary people into great ones.Great people aren’t born—they’re shaped through persistence. Think about a sculptor chiseling stone. The first strike of the hammer doesn’t reveal a masterpiece. It takes repeated effort. That’s how God shapes your life too—slowly, steadily, through faithful steps of obedience.Nothing worthwhile ever comes easy. You need spiritual endurance to keep going when you feel like giving up. When you feel like quitting, remember this: You’re not a failure until you quit.4. God’s delays are not his denials.Maybe you’re praying for something and it still hasn’t happened. That doesn’t mean God has said no—it might just mean “not yet.”In the Living BIble paraphrase, Habakkuk 2:3 says, “These things I plan won’t happen right away. Slowly, steadily, surely, the time approaches when the vision will be fulfilled. If it seems slow, do not despair, for these things will surely come to pass. Just be patient! They will not be overdue a single day!”At Saddleback, we waited 13 years without a building of our own. But God had a better plan—one that wasn’t even visible when we started. That’s true for your ministry, too. Be patient. God is never late.5. God tests your patience to grow your faith.Spiritual maturity means learning the difference between a “no” and a “not yet.” God doesn’t test you so he can learn something new—he tests you so you can learn something new. He wants to reveal your commitment and his faithfulness in the process.You won’t be tested just once. You’ll be tested over and over again—not to discourage you, but to build endurance in you. And you can take it. Why? Because God is with you. He will strengthen you.Don’t give up!You may feel like you’re at the end of your rope. But you’re not alone. God is with you—and he’s not finished with you.Don’t drop out of the race. Keep pressing forward. Resist discouragement and finish what God called you to do.
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Use Your Pain to Help Others This Christmas

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Why Jesus Says Not to Worry

Why Jesus Says Not to Worry

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