
“The one who gives an answer before he listens—this is foolishness and disgrace for him.” Proverbs 18:13 (CSB)
Pastor, one of the hardest parts of ministry is resisting the urge to fix things too quickly.
When someone comes to you hurting, confused, or overwhelmed, your mind often moves fast. You want to help. You want to solve the problem. You want to bring clarity and move things forward.
But Scripture says, “The one who gives an answer before he listens—this is foolishness and disgrace for him” (Proverbs 18:13 CSB).
That is an important word for shepherds.
People do need wisdom. They do need truth. But often, before they are ready for your answer, they need your presence. They need to feel heard. They need to know you care. They need space to speak their pain out loud.
There is healing in being heard.
Your ear is one of the tools God will use most in your ministry.
Jesus shows us this in John 11. When he arrived after Lazarus had died, he already knew what he was about to do. He was not confused. He was not powerless. He knew the solution before anyone else did.
And still, when he saw the grief around him, he did not rush past it.
The Bible says, “Jesus saw her weeping, and he saw how the people with her were weeping also; his heart was touched, and he was deeply moved. . . . Jesus wept” (John 11:33-35 GNT).
Jesus knew resurrection was coming, but he still entered their sorrow.
That is pastoral wisdom.
Pastor, sometimes the most loving thing you can do is to not speak first. Instead, stay present long enough to feel what someone else is carrying. Yes, there may be a time to guide, correct, or counsel. But often ministry begins by listening well.
So this week, before you rush to fix, slow down.
Listen fully.
Enter the pain.
Let people feel heard.
A shepherd’s heart is often seen first in listening.