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Setting—and Reaching—God-Honoring Goals (Part One)

Research shows something surprising: Most people don’t struggle with accomplishing goals; they struggle with setting them in the first place.

For many of us, the hardest part is slowing down long enough to think about what God actually wants us to do with our lives. As pastors, that challenge is even greater. Ministry keeps us reactive. Sermons are always coming. Needs never stop. And planning time is often the first thing to disappear.

One national survey revealed a simple but powerful distinction between moderately successful people and highly successful people. The difference wasn’t intelligence, education, or talent. It was this: Highly successful people wrote down their goals. In nearly every other category, they were equals.

What’s true in everyday life is also true in ministry. Pastors who set clear goals tend to move forward with greater focus and effectiveness.

So what does God say about goal setting?

Scripture tells us, “Any enterprise is built by wise planning, becomes strong through common sense, and profits wonderfully by keeping abreast of the facts” (Proverbs 24:3–4 TLB). God repeatedly affirms the wisdom of intentional planning. Faith and forethought are not enemies.

It’s good to have goals in every area of life—your marriage, your family, your finances, and your ministry.

If that’s true, we should expect to find biblical models that show us how to do this well. One of the clearest examples appears in Genesis 24, in the story of Abraham and his servant. Abraham sends his servant on a mission to find a wife for his son Isaac.

In the NIV, the word “success” (or “successful”) appears five times in this chapter—more than anywhere else in Scripture. You could call it the Bible’s clearest picture of faithful success: God accomplishing his purposes through obedience, clarity, and trust.

When you study the chapter closely, you’ll discover 10 practical steps Abraham and his servant followed to reach their goal. In this article, we’ll look at the first five. The remaining five will come in the next issue of Toolbox.

1. Take an honest inventory of where you are.

Before you can decide where you’re going, you need a clear picture of where you are right now.

That means evaluating your present condition with humility and honesty. I try to do this about once a quarter by giving myself a spiritual checkup: Am I still headed in the direction God wants for my life and ministry?

Abraham did exactly this in Genesis 24. God had promised to multiply his descendants, but Isaac, Abraham’s miracle child, still didn’t have a wife. Abraham assessed the situation and realized something needed to change.

At this point, Abraham was at least 115 years old. God doesn’t put an expiration date on calling. As long as you’re breathing, he can still give you a new dream.

2. Clearly define what you want God to do.

Once you know where you are, you need clarity about where you’re going.

Abraham gave his servant a very specific assignment: “Go to my country and my own relatives and get a wife for my son Isaac” (Genesis 24:4 NIV). Later, he added additional conditions—same nationality, same hometown, same faith.

Those weren’t vague hopes. They were clearly defined goals.

You’ll never reach a goal you can’t describe. The more specific a goal is, the easier it is to recognize progress. If you simply ask God to “bless your church,” how will you know when he does? Vague goals have no drawing power.

Clarity fuels momentum.

3. Anchor your goal in God’s promises.

As soon as you start moving toward a God-given goal, fear has a way of showing up.

Abraham’s servant experienced it too. He wondered what would happen if the woman refused to return with him. Abraham responded the way we all should when doubt creeps in—by pointing him back to what God had already promised.

When fear steps in, don’t focus on how the goal will be accomplished. Focus on who made the promise.

Abraham reminded his servant, “The LORD, the God of heaven, who . . .  promised me on oath, saying, ‘To your offspring I will give this land’—he will send his angel before you” (Genesis 24:7 NIV).

When you set goals for yourself or your church, don’t measure them by your own resources or abilities. Scripture contains thousands of promises you can stand on. Let God determine the size of the goal.

People used to ask us at Saddleback, “Who do you think you are to attempt something like that?” That’s the wrong question. The real issue is who you believe God is.

4. Identify why the goal truly matters.

Every goal needs a clear payoff. Without a compelling reason, motivation fades quickly.

Abraham’s servant understood what was at stake. Isaac would receive a wife. God’s promise would continue. Abraham would be encouraged. There was a clear spiritual and relational reward.

Ask yourself three questions:

  • What is the reward?

  • Why do I want it?

  • How will I feel when God accomplishes it?

When you settle the why, God has a way of clarifying the how. That’s when a goal becomes a calling.

If you don’t understand why a goal matters, discouragement will eventually cause you to give up.

For me, the ultimate motivation is simple. One day, I want to stand before Jesus Christ and hear him say, “Well done, good and faithful servant!” (Matthew 25:23 NIV). That one sentence will make everything worth it.

5. Carry the goal consistently to God in prayer.

Praying for your goals does two things. It reveals how much you want them—and it reminds you who you’re depending on.

Genesis 24 tells how Abraham’s servant prayed continually throughout the process. He prayed when he arrived at his destination (verses 12-14). He prayed after he met the woman, Rebekah (verses 26-27). He prayed in front of Rebekah’s family (verse 52). Every step was covered in prayer.

Are you praying for your goals—or have you only written them down?

Your goal list should become part of your prayer life—not the only thing you pray about, but something you regularly bring before God.

These five steps lay the foundation—but they aren’t the whole picture. In the next issue of Toolbox, we’ll look at five additional practices that help move God-given goals from intention to reality.

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Setting—and Reaching—God-Honoring Goals (Part One)

Setting—and Reaching—God-Honoring Goals (Part One)

Research shows something surprising: Most people don’t struggle with accomplishing goals; they struggle with setting them in the first place.For many of us, the hardest part is slowing down long enough to think about what God actually wants us to do with our lives. As pastors, that challenge is even greater. Ministry keeps us reactive. Sermons are always coming. Needs never stop. And planning time is often the first thing to disappear.One national survey revealed a simple but powerful distinction between moderately successful people and highly successful people. The difference wasn’t intelligence, education, or talent. It was this: Highly successful people wrote down their goals. In nearly every other category, they were equals.What’s true in everyday life is also true in ministry. Pastors who set clear goals tend to move forward with greater focus and effectiveness.So what does God say about goal setting?Scripture tells us, “Any enterprise is built by wise planning, becomes strong through common sense, and profits wonderfully by keeping abreast of the facts” (Proverbs 24:3–4 TLB). God repeatedly affirms the wisdom of intentional planning. Faith and forethought are not enemies.It’s good to have goals in every area of life—your marriage, your family, your finances, and your ministry.If that’s true, we should expect to find biblical models that show us how to do this well. One of the clearest examples appears in Genesis 24, in the story of Abraham and his servant. Abraham sends his servant on a mission to find a wife for his son Isaac.In the NIV, the word “success” (or “successful”) appears five times in this chapter—more than anywhere else in Scripture. You could call it the Bible’s clearest picture of faithful success: God accomplishing his purposes through obedience, clarity, and trust.When you study the chapter closely, you’ll discover 10 practical steps Abraham and his servant followed to reach their goal. In this article, we’ll look at the first five. The remaining five will come in the next issue of Toolbox.1. Take an honest inventory of where you are.Before you can decide where you’re going, you need a clear picture of where you are right now.That means evaluating your present condition with humility and honesty. I try to do this about once a quarter by giving myself a spiritual checkup: Am I still headed in the direction God wants for my life and ministry?Abraham did exactly this in Genesis 24. God had promised to multiply his descendants, but Isaac, Abraham’s miracle child, still didn’t have a wife. Abraham assessed the situation and realized something needed to change.At this point, Abraham was at least 115 years old. God doesn’t put an expiration date on calling. As long as you’re breathing, he can still give you a new dream.2. Clearly define what you want God to do.Once you know where you are, you need clarity about where you’re going.Abraham gave his servant a very specific assignment: “Go to my country and my own relatives and get a wife for my son Isaac” (Genesis 24:4 NIV). Later, he added additional conditions—same nationality, same hometown, same faith.Those weren’t vague hopes. They were clearly defined goals.You’ll never reach a goal you can’t describe. The more specific a goal is, the easier it is to recognize progress. If you simply ask God to “bless your church,” how will you know when he does? Vague goals have no drawing power.Clarity fuels momentum.3. Anchor your goal in God’s promises.As soon as you start moving toward a God-given goal, fear has a way of showing up.Abraham’s servant experienced it too. He wondered what would happen if the woman refused to return with him. Abraham responded the way we all should when doubt creeps in—by pointing him back to what God had already promised.When fear steps in, don’t focus on how the goal will be accomplished. Focus on who made the promise.Abraham reminded his servant, “The LORD, the God of heaven, who . . .  promised me on oath, saying, ‘To your offspring I will give this land’—he will send his angel before you” (Genesis 24:7 NIV).When you set goals for yourself or your church, don’t measure them by your own resources or abilities. Scripture contains thousands of promises you can stand on. Let God determine the size of the goal.People used to ask us at Saddleback, “Who do you think you are to attempt something like that?” That’s the wrong question. The real issue is who you believe God is.4. Identify why the goal truly matters.Every goal needs a clear payoff. Without a compelling reason, motivation fades quickly.Abraham’s servant understood what was at stake. Isaac would receive a wife. God’s promise would continue. Abraham would be encouraged. There was a clear spiritual and relational reward.Ask yourself three questions:What is the reward?Why do I want it?How will I feel when God accomplishes it?When you settle the why, God has a way of clarifying the how. That’s when a goal becomes a calling.If you don’t understand why a goal matters, discouragement will eventually cause you to give up.For me, the ultimate motivation is simple. One day, I want to stand before Jesus Christ and hear him say, “Well done, good and faithful servant!” (Matthew 25:23 NIV). That one sentence will make everything worth it.5. Carry the goal consistently to God in prayer.Praying for your goals does two things. It reveals how much you want them—and it reminds you who you’re depending on.Genesis 24 tells how Abraham’s servant prayed continually throughout the process. He prayed when he arrived at his destination (verses 12-14). He prayed after he met the woman, Rebekah (verses 26-27). He prayed in front of Rebekah’s family (verse 52). Every step was covered in prayer.Are you praying for your goals—or have you only written them down?Your goal list should become part of your prayer life—not the only thing you pray about, but something you regularly bring before God.These five steps lay the foundation—but they aren’t the whole picture. In the next issue of Toolbox, we’ll look at five additional practices that help move God-given goals from intention to reality.
Stop Carrying What Belongs to God

Stop Carrying What Belongs to God

“The battle is not yours, but God’s.” 2 Chronicles 20:15 (NLT)Pastor, imagine you’re sitting on a plane that’s about to take off. As the plane races down the runway, you start flapping your arms. As the nose lifts, you flap faster and faster. Once you’re airborne, the flight attendant looks at you and asks, “What are you doing?”And you reply, “I’m helping us get off the ground.”That sounds ridiculous, doesn’t it?But that’s often what ministry looks like when you try to do what only God is equipped to do.You don’t have to hold up a plane. And you don’t have to hold up God.Many pastors are exhausted—not because they’re lazy or unfaithful, but because they’re fighting battles that don’t belong to them. You were never meant to carry the full weight of people’s hearts, church outcomes, financial pressures, criticism, or cultural resistance on your own shoulders.God says it plainly: “The battle is not yours, but God’s” (2 Chronicles 20:15 NLT).Still, when pressure hits, it’s easy to slip into independence.I’ve got to fix this.I need to make this work.If it’s going to change, it’s up to me.That mindset will wear you out—because you were never designed to play God.Maybe you’ve been running in circles trying to solve a problem in your church, your leadership team, your family, your health, or your future. You’ve been pushing, striving, carrying, and controlling. And now you’re tired.When your strength finally runs out and you come back to God, you might feel like you’ve failed. But God isn’t disappointed in you—because he never expected you to do what only he can do.Here’s the truth: You don’t have God in your hands. He has you in his.If you think you’re holding God together, that isn’t faith—it’s pressure. Anything you think you can fully control isn’t from God; it’s a burden you were never meant to carry.So this Monday, let go.Surrender the battles that have been draining your joy and stealing your rest. Hand them back to the one who actually knows how to fight them. And listen for God’s gracious response, which might sound something like:“Good. Now we can get something done.”You were called to be faithful, not to be God.
The One Thing You Can Count On as You Lead in 2026

The One Thing You Can Count On as You Lead in 2026

As we pastors step into a new year, we know we don’t control what’s ahead. We can plan, prepare, and pray, but ministry has a way of reminding us quickly that there is never complete or permanent security where people are involved. The future can feel uncertain, not because God is absent, but because we are not in control.One of the marks of emotional and spiritual maturity is coming to terms with that reality. We are not God. We cannot control everything that happens in ministry. Mature faith learns to focus on what God has made us responsible for and to accept without anxiety the things that are beyond our control.There are many things you can’t count on as a new year begins. But there is one thing you can count on: God is in control. Scripture declares, “Everything in the heavens and on earth is yours. . . . You rule over everything” (1 Chronicles 29:11-12 NLT). God’s sovereignty means he remains the ultimate authority. He is in charge. And that truth brings stability in a world—and a ministry—that often feels uncertain.As we look ahead to the rest of 2026, keep these implications of God’s sovereignty in mind as you lead.Implication #1: Because God Is in Control, My Plans Have a LimitEvery new year invites planning. Pastors think about sermon calendars, ministry goals, staffing, and budgets. Planning is wise. Scripture affirms it. But God’s sovereignty reminds us that our plans are never absolute. They always have a limit.The Living Bible paraphrase puts it this way: “We should make plans—counting on God to direct us” (Proverbs 16:9). We make real choices, but we don’t control outcomes. God does. That truth doesn’t make planning unnecessary; it makes it humble. One of the gifts of maturity is recognizing the difference between responsibility and control. We’re called to plan faithfully, but we’re not called to play God.Scripture shows us this balance clearly. God gives us freedom to choose, but our choices operate within his larger purposes. Like a chess match against a grandmaster or a journey on a ship headed toward its destination, we may make many decisions along the way, but the final outcome isn’t in doubt. God is at work accomplishing his will.For pastors, this is freeing news. It means we can plan diligently without carrying the burden of guaranteeing results. We prepare, we lead, and we steward what God places before us, trusting that he remains in control of where the journey ultimately leads.Implication #2: Because God Is in Control, My Problems Have a PurposeWhen problems show up in ministry, our first instinct is often to eliminate them as quickly as possible. We look for solutions, fixes, or explanations. But God’s sovereignty invites us to see problems differently. If God were not in control, our difficulties would be random and meaningless.Because God is sovereign, problems are never random. They are woven into his purposes, even when we don’t yet see how. Life is not a series of disconnected events. History is moving somewhere. God is at work accomplishing his will, not only through moments we would choose, but also through pressures we would rather avoid.This matters deeply for pastors. Ministry brings challenges we didn’t plan for and wouldn’t schedule. Conflict, delay, and disappointment can leave us questioning whether we’ve stepped outside God’s will. But God’s sovereignty assures us that difficulty does not mean detour. He uses problems to shape our character, refine our priorities, and deepen our dependence on him.Knowing that God is in control doesn’t minimize the pain of problems, but it does give them meaning. We don’t have to understand every difficulty to trust that God is at work through them. In his hands, even problems become part of how he forms us and advances his purposes through our ministry. Implication #3: Because God Is in Control, My Prayers Have an ImpactWhen we believe God is truly in control, prayer becomes more than a last resort. It becomes our first response. Prayer matters not because of our words or persistence, but because of who we’re praying to. If God were distant or indifferent, prayer would be little more than wishful thinking. But if God is sovereign, prayer is participation in his work.God’s control does not make prayer unnecessary. It makes prayer meaningful. He invites us to bring our concerns, our needs, and our hopes to him because he is already at work and chooses to involve us. Prayer is one of the ways God aligns our hearts with what he is doing in the world and in our ministry.For pastors, this is especially encouraging. We often pray about things we cannot fix, change, or fully understand. We pray for people whose lives feel fragile. We pray for direction when decisions feel unclear. Trusting God’s sovereignty reminds us that prayer is never wasted. It places us in step with the one who is already moving.As this year continues, prayer anchors us not in outcomes we can’t control, but in the God who can be trusted completely.As the year unfolds, many things will remain uncertain. Plans will change. Problems will arise. The future will still be unknown. But the one thing you can count on hasn’t changed. God is in control. That truth steadies us when ministry feels unpredictable and reminds us we’re never leading alone.
What to Do When You Feel Taken for Granted

What to Do When You Feel Taken for Granted

Pastor, it doesn’t take long in ministry to realize that people have short memories. One day you’re leading someone to Christ; the next day they’ve left for the new church down the street. One Sunday someone tells you they loved the sermon; by midweek they can’t remember what it was about. After a while, you can start to feel invisible—taken for granted.That experience isn’t new. The Israelites had a short memory when it came to Moses. Just three days after the Red Sea miracle—at the very first sign of trouble—they started doubting his leadership. If that happened to Moses, it can certainly happen to you.We live in a what‑have‑you‑done‑for‑me‑lately world. Children forget what their parents have done for them. Bosses forget what their employees have done for them. Spouses take each other for granted. And people in your church can forget your love and sacrifice too.So what do you do when you feel taken for granted in ministry? Moses gives a great example of what to do with your hurt.1. Don’t curse it.When Moses heard the Israelites grumble, it would have been natural to respond in anger. Most of us would have done that. But Moses didn’t. Revenge just wasn’t an option.When people don’t appreciate you, choose not to strike back. Leave your frustration in God’s hands. When you let God settle the score, you are well represented. “Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse” (Romans 12:14 NASB).Instead of cursing those who forget you, speak positively about them. Ask God to bless them, even when they’ve hurt you.2. Don’t rehearse it.Every time you review the hurt you feel when you’ve been taken for granted, it gets bigger. If you’ve served someone selflessly and then they criticize you, it hurts. But if you’re not careful, that hurt will quickly grow out of proportion.Notice that Moses never kept going back over the pain. He focused on the future. Rehearsing pain is a dangerous habit in ministry because soon you’re addicted to it. I’ve met some very bitter pastors who allowed experiences of their past to color their perception until they thought everybody was against them. You can’t allow that to happen.3. Don’t nurse it.Don’t allow yourself to hold a private pity party. It’s okay to be angry for a moment. Anger is a legitimate response to hurt. But holding on to anger becomes sin. “Don’t get so angry that you sin. Don’t go to bed angry, and don’t give the devil a chance” (Ephesians 4:26–27 CEV).If you are a leader, you can expect to be misunderstood. It’s a fact of leadership. If you choose not to take the disappointment personally, you’ll avoid becoming cynical.What to Do Instead When You Feel ForgottenSo, what should you do when you feel forgotten and taken for granted? Moses and Joseph in the Old Testament show us a better way.First, share your pain with God.Often we go to the wrong people with our pain. We go to the people who’ve mistreated us and remind them of their oversight—or we complain to others and spread our hurt. Instead, take your pain to God. He can take whatever you dish out to him. He understands what it feels like to be rejected and forgotten.Pour out your frustration honestly in prayer. Tell God exactly how you feel. He already knows anyway.Second, expect God to reverse your disappointment.God is the master of reversing hurts. Remember the story of Joseph in the Old Testament? Joseph’s brothers sold him into slavery. Then, 20 years later, he was able to say, “You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives” (Genesis 50:20 NIV).Joseph had every reason to be cynical. His own family had sold him out. But he wasn’t cynical. He trusted that God was working for good behind the scenes.Moses had a similar experience. The people had been whining and complaining because they didn’t have water—and when they did get water, it was bitter. But where did God lead them after that? He led them to a place of abundant water. God reversed the situation and showed his goodness.Pastor, God can do the same with the way you’ve been treated in ministry. What others forget, God remembers. What others overlook, God will one day honor.Friend, I don’t know how you’ve been taken for granted in ministry. But I do know this: God has not forgotten you. He’s seen every act of service. He’s watched every time you’ve faithfully prepared a message. He has walked into the room of the dying person with you. He’s listened as you’ve prayed for the direction of your church. He’s seen your secret acts of service.Others may take you for granted, but God doesn’t. And in the end, his “Well done” is the only approval that really matters.
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