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Pastor, leading a ministry team doesn’t make you immune to competing with the people on it. You can want the ministry to succeed and still feel the need to prove you’re right or get your way.Whether you lead staff, volunteers, or both, you are part of that team. Philippians 2 calls you to examine your own ambition and pride before asking anyone else to change.Paul writes, “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves” (Philippians 2:3 NIV). He isn’t just asking us to avoid arguments. He’s telling us to give up the selfish ambition and pride that cause them.In that passage, Paul shows us five ways to reduce conflict and increase cooperation. Start by putting them into practice yourself.1. Stop competing with your own teamIf we’re not careful, we can start treating members of our own team as rivals. We ought to complement one another, but instead we fight to have our own way.James 4:1–2 says fights and quarrels grow out of desires battling within us. When I want something and you want something else, our competing desires can turn teammates into opponents.The trouble comes when getting what I want matters more than working together. When you disagree with someone on your team, ask yourself: Am I trying to help our ministry, or prove that I’m better?2. Give up the need to prove yourselfPaul also warns against vain conceit. That’s doing something to show off, gain praise, or make yourself look important.Pride makes it hard to admit we’re wrong. We can keep a quarrel going simply because we won’t admit we made a mistake. Proverbs 13:10 connects that kind of pride with quarrels.You don’t have to prove you’re better than the people on your team. When you’ve been wrong, say so. Don’t let the need to look right keep an argument going.3. Treat each team member with respectPaul’s call to humility doesn’t mean other people are superior to you. It means they are worthy of respect. Being the pastor is no excuse for putting someone down.I can criticize someone because I want to feel more important. Finding another person’s faults may make me feel better about myself, but it does nothing to help us cooperate.Humility isn’t thinking less of yourself. It’s turning your attention toward others instead of being preoccupied with yourself. James 4:11–12 reminds us that God is the judge; I don’t know another person’s motives or background as he does.Before you criticize someone on your team, examine your own attitude. Are you trying to help that person, or make yourself feel superior?4. Consider your team members’ needsPaul continues, “not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others” (Philippians 2:4 NIV). Consideration means paying attention to the needs of other people, not just your own.It’s easy to see only how tired I am, how much pressure I feel, and what I want to do with my time. But when those are the only things I notice, I become insensitive to the people around me.Before you insist on what you need from a team member, take time to understand what that person needs too. Your needs aren’t the only ones that matter.5. Learn the attitude of JesusIn Philippians 2:5, Paul tells us to have the attitude of Jesus Christ. He is our example even when we find someone on our team difficult to get along with.I can ask everyone on the team to change and still refuse to deal with my own selfishness. If I want greater cooperation on my team, I need to let Jesus Christ live through me.This week, think about a disagreement you’ve had with someone on your team. Look honestly at your part in it. Have you been trying to work together, or insisting on your own way?Go into your next team meeting willing to admit where you’ve been wrong and pay attention to someone else’s needs. You need Christ to change your attitude too.

Pastor, if you stay in ministry for any length of time, you learn this fast: You can preach a strong sermon on Sunday and still blow up your week on Monday because of one tense conversation.Every day you’re planting seeds in relationships. Some are seeds of peace. Some are seeds of conflict. Over time, those seeds grow into a tone in your home, your staff meetings, your board, your volunteer teams, and your whole church culture.James says it plainly: “But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere" (James 3:17 NIV).So what does it look like to plant peace when you’re dealing with someone who frustrates you, misunderstands you, or knows exactly how to get under your skin?James gives a kind of “wisdom test” for relationships. Not book smarts. Real-life wisdom. The kind that shows up when you’re tired, stressed, and tempted to react.Here are six marks of wise relationships, with one simple practice for each.1) If I’m wise, I won’t compromise my integrity.James says, “Wisdom . . . is pure” (James 3:17 NIV).That word “pure” is about integrity: clean, dependable, not twisted. And it matters because every relationship runs on trust. When trust breaks, everything gets harder, including communication, teamwork, friendship, and even forgiveness.Wise leadership doesn’t manipulate people. It doesn’t shade the truth. It doesn’t tell a story one way to one person and another way to someone else.Scripture says, “Whoever walks in integrity walks securely” (Proverbs 10:9 NIV).Integrity makes you safe to be around.Try this: Before you speak, ask: Is this true? Is this the whole truth? Is this the kind version of the truth?2) If I’m wise, I won’t antagonize your anger.James says wisdom is “peace-loving” (James 3:17 NIV).Wise people aren’t always looking for a fight. They don’t turn every disagreement into a contest. They work at peace because they know how expensive anger is.Proverbs puts it bluntly: “Avoiding a fight is a mark of honor; only fools insist on quarreling” (Proverbs 20:3 NLT).A lot of conflict isn’t caused by big issues. It’s caused by predictable triggers. The Bible calls it foolish when you know what makes someone angry and you use it anyway.Three common anger-starters to watch for:Comparing: “Why can’t you be like . . . ?”Condemning: “It’s all your fault . . . you always . . . you never . . .”Contradicting: This often looks like correcting every little detail and cutting people off mid-story.Try this: When you feel yourself loading the verbal gun, pause and ask: Am I trying to win, or am I trying to heal?3) If I’m wise, I won’t minimize your feelings.James says wisdom is “considerate” (James 3:17 NIV).Considerate doesn’t mean you agree with every feeling. It means you treat the person as human.One of the quickest ways to damage a relationship is to dismiss emotion:“You shouldn’t feel that way.”“That’s irrational.”“It’s not a big deal.”Proverbs says, “Gentle words are a tree of life; a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit” (Proverbs 15:4 NLT).Wise pastors don’t argue people out of pain. They don’t sermonize in the moment. They listen.Try this:Say, “That makes sense. Tell me more.” (Even if you don’t fully understand yet.)4) If I’m wise, I won’t criticize your suggestions.James uses a word often translated “submissive” (James 3:17 NIV), but the idea is closer to: reasonable, open to discussion, teachable.Wise leaders can learn from anybody. They aren’t instantly defensive. They don’t shut down feedback just because it stings.Scripture says: “Fools think their own way is right, but the wise listen to others” (Proverbs 12:15 NLT).Criticism is part of ministry life. You’ll hear it in the form of staff opinions, volunteer frustrations, family feedback, and congregational expectations.A simple way to handle it:If it’s true, learn from it.If it’s untrue, let it go.Either way, remember God is the final judge of your life.Try this:When someone offers a suggestion, say, “Help me understand what you’re seeing.”5) If I’m wise, I won’t emphasize your mistakes.James says wisdom is “full of mercy” (James 3:17 NIV).Mercy is giving people what they need, not what they deserve.Wise people don’t pounce on every failure. They don’t keep score. They don’t keep a file drawer of past mistakes to pull out during the next argument.Proverbs says: “Whoever would foster love covers over an offense, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends” (Proverbs 17:9 NIV).Ministry gives you plenty of opportunities to practice mercy: miscommunication, volunteer dropouts, emotional blowups, clumsy decisions, and imperfect sermons.Mercy doesn’t mean “no standards.” It means you correct without humiliating.Try this:If you need to address a mistake, name the issue without naming the person as “the problem.”6) If I’m wise, I won’t disguise my weaknesses.James says wisdom is “impartial and sincere” (James 3:17 NIV).The opposite of sincerity is hypocrisy, or wearing a mask.Wise people don’t have to look perfect. They don’t pretend they have it all together. They don’t act holy in public and brittle at home.And here’s the irony: Pretending to be strong doesn’t make you trustworthy; it makes you distant.Proverbs says, “Whoever conceals their sins does not prosper, but the one who confesses and renounces them finds mercy” (Proverbs 28:13 NIV).This doesn’t mean you confess everything to everyone. It does mean you stop performing. You lead like a real person who is still growing.Try this:In a safe relationship, practice one honest sentence: “Here’s where I’m struggling right now.”A simple next step: Take the wisdom test this week.James isn’t describing wisdom to impress you. He’s describing it to help you become more like Jesus.Pick one relationship that has been tense lately, at home, on staff, with a volunteer, or with someone who drains you.Then ask:“Where am I being unwise?”“Which of these six marks of wise relationships do I need to practice this week?”When you plant seeds of peace, you don’t just avoid conflict.You reap something better: a harvest of goodness.

Commitments are the secret sauce of spiritual growth. Think back to the key times of growth in your own spiritual journey, and you'll likely be pointing to times of commitment. For example:The moment you gave your life to Christ.The day you decided to get baptized.The season when you began reading your Bible regularly.If you want to see your congregation grow closer to Jesus, you need to help them make commitments to the purposes of God. At Saddleback, we’ve done that through a series of covenants where people commit to church membership, maturity, ministry, and missions. Spiritual Growth Begins with CommitmentSpiritual growth isn’t automatic. You can grow old without growing up. Growth is a product of commitment. Without commitments, we live in perpetual immaturity. Think about the growth that comes after you accept your first job, or when you get married. You grow up, too, when you have children. No one is ever “ready” for marriage or children. You get ready after you’ve made those commitments. The same is true in our relationship with God. That’s why, during my years pastoring Saddleback, we didn’t work toward spiritual commitments. We worked from spiritual commitments. That means we started with whatever commitments people had already made. Here’s what that can look like:When a person makes a commitment to Christ, we lead them toward baptism. Then it’s time for the membership class. In CLASS 101, new members sign a covenant where they commit to:Protect the unity of the church.Share the responsibility of the church.Serve the ministry of the church.Support the testimony of the church. Then those commitments lead to the commitments in the discipleship, ministry, and missions covenants. Why Covenants WorkThe most important part of a wedding ceremony isn’t the moment the bride walks down the aisle. It’s not when the pastor says the groom may kiss the bride. The most important part is when the man and woman exchange vows and make commitments to one another before witnesses. The same is true for church covenants. At Saddleback, our membership, maturity, ministry, and missions covenants are the most important parts of our CLASS system.Here’s why those covenants are so important. 1. We become what we’re committed to.Our lives are a sum of the commitments we make. Sit down with someone and ask them what they’re committed to today, and you’ll know the contours of the rest of their lives (assuming those commitments don’t change). Commitments establish a person’s character. That means the key to leading people to grow spiritually is helping them commit to the disciplines that help Christians grow—such as commitments to worship, build meaningful relationships, read the Bible, pray, serve, and share the Good News. 2. Commitments define churches. Your church isn’t defined by its programs or the building it meets in or the pastor’s preaching. What really defines a church is the commitments the people in it make together.A motto Saddleback has lived out for decades has been, “A great commitment to the Great Commandment and the Great Commission grows a great church.” During my years as pastor there, that commitment shaped every decision we made.3. People want to be committed to something that brings significance. I always told people in our membership class at Saddleback that they couldn’t do anything more important with their lives than join the church, grow in maturity, get involved in ministry, and begin fulfilling their mission in the world. Those investments would outlast anything else they might do in life. People want to give their lives to something important. They long for their lives to count. Intuitively, they know nothing else fits the bill—not their careers, not their hobbies, and not even their families. As a pastor, you have an opportunity to show people a commitment worth giving their lives to. 4. If you don’t ask, others will.Everyone seems to ask for commitments these days. Travel sports leagues want families to commit. Employers are pushing for more commitment. If you’re not asking the people in your church to make commitments, their schedules will get packed with everything else. As a pastor, part of your job is to guide people toward making the right commitments—ones that help them live out God’s purposes for their lives.5. Covenants clarify vision and values.When your church’s members sign on to your church covenant, they know your vision and values. The covenant reinforces the mission and values that drive your church—and ensures that new members understand them and will work toward them in the future.To learn more about how your church can use covenants to drive spiritual growth, check out the CLASS materials.

Every pastor makes mistakes; every pastor has defeats. Mistakes are a part of life. Sadly, so is sin. Not even a pastor can escape Romans 3:23: “All of us have sinned and fallen short of God’s glory” (CEV). None of us are perfect. The difference between successful and unsuccessful leaders isn’t that the successful people don’t fail. The difference is that successful leaders learn from their failures. I heard a story years ago about a young man who asked an executive, “What is the secret of success?” “The secret of success is the right decisions,” the executive responded.  “How do you make the right decisions?” “By experience.” “How do you get experience?” “By making mistakes.” I always told my staff at Saddleback to call failure an education. We did more things that didn’t work than did. That means I had a highly educated staff! But the important part was we weren’t afraid to admit our mistakes and learn from them. The road to success is paved with failure. But what’s critical is this: We need to learn from those failures. You can read a good example of learning from failures in Joshua 7. After the Israelites’ great victory at Jericho, they came to the little town of Ai.   The Israelites had just taken on the greatest, most fortified city in the land—and had a resounding military victory. Then they got a little cocky and presumed upon God’s grace. Joshua sent only about 3,000 troops into the town to capture it—and his soldiers were defeated.  But take note of how Joshua responded. He threw himself onto the ground and prayed, and God told him he needed to take care of a problem in the community. A man named Achan had taken some spoils of war when God had clearly told them not to; the entire camp was suffering because of Achan’s sin.  God told Joshua to act, and that’s exactly what he did. Joshua could have defended Achan and refused to confront his sin. Instead, he admitted that Israel had sin in the camp.  He allowed himself to be corrected by his defeat—and that’s a mark of a great leader.  Pastor, be big enough to admit your error. The real mark of leadership is the willingness to say to your people in your church, “I was wrong. I made a mistake.” But do you know what’s better than learning from your mistakes? Learning from the mistakes of others. It’s wise to learn from experience, but it’s wiser to learn from the experiences of others. We don’t have time to make all the mistakes ourselves. Of course, that means learning from people you know. When you see people failing, talk with them. Ask questions about what they’ve learned—and be alert to what they may still have to learn.  And do these things too: Read biographies. Be teachable. Pray for insight. Always be on the lookout for people who have failed and recovered.  Whatever you do, be corrected by your defeats and learn from the mistakes of others so you won’t have to make all of the mistakes yourself.