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Testimony: Helping Families Find Hope and Freedom in Christ

By Sylvia I'm a grateful believer in Jesus, who struggles with co-dependency, pride, and food issues, and my name is Sylvia. I grew up in church with a mom who was the piano player, so we were there if the church was open. My biological father had left when I was very young, and although I didn't realize it growing up, I had abandonment issues and used a variety of things like food and men to fill a void left by his absence. I always felt like I was a Christian, but I didn’t always make choices that reflected Jesus in me, and I didn't have a personal relationship with him. I had many friends and was always social, but inside I was lonely and hurting, especially after my mom passed away when I was 24. I had cared for her during her last year and knew she needed to be released from her suffering, but it was incredibly hard to lose the person I loved most when I was young and felt alone and, in a way, abandoned again. I moved to Northwest Arkansas a few years later and immediately met my future husband. Thanks to him, I was back in church and living a "Christian" lifestyle on the surface, but I still hadn’t worked through the issues that made me make choices that caused harm in my life and in the lives of others. I came to Celebrate Recovery in a completely different way than most. We launched CR in 2003, and since I was already involved in children’s ministry, I joined the CR Kids' team. In this ministry, we made sure kids had fun and heard about Jesus each week, but we weren’t intentional with lessons to help them lead healthy emotional lives. When the elementary curriculum for Celebrate Recovery came out in 2009, we started it with the children and were excited to see how it could help families grow together. Soon after that, I attended the Celebrate Recovery Summit. While listening to teachings and testimonies, I realized that I was one of "those people" who needed CR. I realized that I tried to control and fix everything in our home, sometimes to the detriment of our marriage. I worked through a Step Study and started recognizing how the loss of my biological father and the difficulties our family went through in my earlier years affected who I had become. I realized that I try to fix and manipulate things to keep them from becoming an issue because of the multiple failed marriages both of my parents had. I also started to recognize that some of my actions as an adult may have stemmed from those hurts from the past but were now my responsibility to control. At around the same time, we started fostering our great-niece and nephew, who had been neglected and removed from their home due to their parents’ drug use. They brought a lot of chaos into our home, and everything got harder for our family. They started attending Celebration Place, and we saw little bits of understanding and change to take place in their lives. Our son had been told by his stepfather that he was useless, bad, stupid, and he believed those lies and was angry all the time. Through Celebration Place, he learned how much God loves him and wants him to be happy and began to work through many of his feelings of low self-worth and anger. Because we talk about real stuff like drugs, alcohol, and anger during small group time, he has learned that those things only cause more harm and that when we feel pain and sadness, we should turn to God for comfort instead of the things of the world. His prayers slowly changed from “thanks for my stuff” to “please help me change the things I can that make me frustrated.” His anger and sadness changed into the beginnings of joy and hope. We truly believe Christ has broken the generational cycle of dysfunction for him and his sister through the lessons in Celebration Place. At the same time, our older girls started attending The Landing. They had a safe place to share how hard and chaotic our home had become since the younger two moved in and how stressed we all were. My husband saw the amazing things happening with the kids and started helping lead with The Landing, which led to him working through his issues and leading multiple Step Studies to help others and continue with his own growth. We probably would never have attended Celebrate Recovery if we hadn’t added the Celebration Place program to our ministry. I can't imagine where our family would be now if we hadn't had all the tools we have learned through Celebration Place, The Landing, and Celebrate Recovery. I tell people all the time to reach outside or out of their Celebrate Recovery body for leaders for Celebration Place and The Landing so that they can introduce this kind of life-change to people who don't think they need Celebrate Recovery. Our family is a perfect example of how entire families can heal and grow together. As we started seeing these changes in our family, I got more passionate about sharing CP and CR with others. I took our college-aged leaders through Life’s Healing Choices and helped lead Celebration Place breakouts at various training conferences. I have served on the Celebration Place National Team for many years and love being able to help other churches launch and maintain their ministries. My husband and I have been able to speak together at conferences about the changes in our lives and how important these ministries are to families. What started as my job has turned into a true mission for us to help families find hope and freedom in Christ. Seeing the joy in people who have worked through the steps of Celebrate Recovery fills us with so much hope for families and futures. The Message version of John 14:27 says, That’s my parting gift to you. Peace. I don’t leave you the way you’re used to being left—feeling abandoned, bereft. So don’t be upset. Don’t be distraught.” Working the Principles of Celebrate Recovery, I have learned that I can have peace instead of feeling abandoned if I put my hope in the Lord. Thanks for letting me share. _______________________________________________ If you would like to learn how to start your own Celebrate Recovery ministry, to contact your Celebrate Recovery Rep, please visit: https://crgroups.info/. To get involved in an already existing Celebrate Recovery ministry near you, please visit: https://locator.crgroups.info/.

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How God Builds Your Faith as He Fulfills Your Dream (Part 1)

How God Builds Your Faith as He Fulfills Your Dream (Part 1)

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You Are Not a Burden

You Are Not a Burden

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Safety in Any Storm

Safety in Any Storm

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Amanda Brandon's Testimony

Amanda Brandon's Testimony

Hi, I am a grateful believer in Jesus Christ who struggles with grief and control. My name is Amanda.  My heart is no longer hardened by grief, anxiety, and control. I used to hide my pain and wonder why my heart hurt, even when I prayed and read God’s Word. I was missing a piece of the puzzle. I wasn’t letting the pain out. When I started coming to Celebrate Recovery two years ago, I kept hearing James 5:16, “Therefore, confess your sins and pray for one another, that you may be healed.”   Sharing my struggles and peeling back the layers of shame, guilt, hurt, and harm have helped me gain a sound mind. My husband Warren and I are healing old wounds, learning to communicate hard things, and finding a shared vision for parenting God’s way. I delight in my children instead of losing my cool. In fact, our entire family comes to CR.  I grew up in a big, chaotic family as the oldest of 10 children. We suffered several tragedies, including losing my baby brother to an accidental drowning when I was 10 and our home to a fire five years later.  By my eleventh birthday, I could get five kids ready for school, clean the house, do the laundry, and make perfect grades. I often stepped into my parents’ conflicts to try to bring peace. I had multiple secret rituals to help alleviate the stress: cleaning, leaving on certain lights, and losing myself in books. I would do anything to keep that buzz of anxiety under the surface.  I also became obsessed with performance. I was a perfect student and a talented writer. But I was crumbling inside. My compulsive reactions to stress, fear, anxiety, and grief would haunt me for the next 30 years.  I graduated No. 1 in high school and got a full college scholarship, forging my escape, or so I thought.  I became a Christian at school and started praying big, bold prayers at 20. My first bold prayer was for the husband God wanted me to marry. Oh boy, did he answer my prayer! He gave me my best friend and intellectual equal, and we married in 2005. We had our first daughter in 2008 and lost my husband’s dad that year. This loss opened a gulf of stalled communication and repressed grief in our marriage.  In 2011, we got pregnant again and were strapped for resources. The doctors told us our baby wasn’t viable, and I needed emergency surgery and weekly testing for the next year to ensure I didn’t get cancer. I was overwhelmed, terrified, and back in darkness. I know God was carrying me through these dark days, but I withdrew inside myself and pushed my husband further away. My three-year-old daughter held my hand and showed me love was still possible. But I felt like I was fading away in my grief. It was such a lonely place, but I prayed one of those big prayers. “God, please give us another child.” Well, we got two babies — 16 months apart. Then, I was too busy raising babies to be worried about my mental health for the next few years. In 2016, I began having panic attacks in church — a place I felt safe and loved. Between my codependent family leaning on me to clean up family crises and save the day, a looming lawsuit with our construction company, and my husband’s new adventurous career as a storm-chasing insurance adjuster, I felt stretched as a wife and mother. I felt overcome with grief and like I was losing my identity. I was at the end of myself. I asked my husband to go with me to talk to our pastor. Our pastor shared that I was struggling as an adult child of family dysfunction and that I needed counseling to root out my deep codependence and anxiety. I went to counseling and learned some tools, but there was still a piece missing. I felt better in the counselor’s office, but the compulsions kept coming back. Add on some struggles with our gifted son that required me to be “on” all the time, and I was as wound up as tight as a spring. My sister Michelle died very suddenly from a surgery complication the next year. I was devastated. But I didn’t have time for the grief. I was too busy running my son’s program, parenting by myself, and saving my family. I wanted to run away.  My control issues got significantly worse over the next few years. In 2020, I decided to see a doctor to help with my anxiety. I learned that I had a rare form of OCD and chose to start medication to help me heal. I felt like an even bigger failure, hating myself for being so weak. But I was desperate. I came to CR two years ago when a friend invited me to hear his testimony. I was already at a low point. My dad had just survived a grueling hospital stay, and my soul felt flattened. I knew my dad didn’t have long to live.  When we moved to Colorado and joined a church with a Celebrate Recovery, I didn’t think CR would help me. I was wrong. Through the weekly share groups and step study, I started sharing what I thought made me an outsider. I found a sponsor and multiple accountability partners here, dived deep into the roots of my reaction to grief, and started to feel sound in mind and spirit.  I got off my anxiety medication a year ago because I had new tools and a new outlook on my mental health. I found my own “program.” My dad got sick again last spring as I was writing my inventory. We made peace with our past, and I forgave my parents. I lost my dad in July, and I didn’t completely retreat and hide for the first time. I opened up and shared the hurt and am healing from the loss.  I know God made a mighty move in bringing me and my family to CR. I’ll keep coming back and giving back because this is where I learned to trust, let go, and let God.
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