
When You Can't Make Yourself Start
You know the feeling. You've got a list this week that actually matters: Call everyone in your small group, prep the lesson, recruit a few volunteers, rehearse the music for Sunday. You know you'll be glad when it's done. You know people are counting on you. And still, you can't make yourself start.After decades of ministry, here's what I've learned about that moment: It’s up to me to keep my own fire burning. I don't focus on motivating other people; I only worry about motivating myself. If I stay motivated, it becomes contagious. People catch your enthusiasm, and they catch your vision. So your first job isn't to light a fire under everyone else; it's to keep your own burning.That's harder than it sounds, because so much of ministry is plain mundane. There's no thrill in stuffing bulletins or setting up and taking down. But Paul says, "Always give yourselves fully to the work of the Lord, because you know that your labor in the Lord is not in vain" (1 Corinthians 15:58 NIV). The Good News Translation says it this way: "You know that nothing you do in the Lord's service is ever useless" (1 Corinthians 15:58). Jesus said even a cup of cold water given in his name counts. The work matters. The real question is how you keep going when you don't feel like it.Here's how I do it. It comes down to three things: Get it on paper, get started, and keep the fire burning.Plan it: Get it out of your head and onto paper.Most of the weight you're carrying isn't the work itself. It's the vague sense that you're not getting it all done. Dawson Trotman, who founded The Navigators ministry in the 1930s, said, "Thoughts disentangle themselves when they pass through the lips and the fingertips." If I can say it and write it down, it's clear. If I haven't written it down, it stays vague. And vague is heavy.So write out what you want to accomplish. Then break it down until it's small enough that you have no excuse not to start. When I planted Saddleback, I'd never started a church in my life. So I got a stack of cards and wrote one task on each: Rent a building, print a bulletin, find someone to lead music, line up nursery workers. Then I laid them out, put them in order, and worked backward from opening day until I knew exactly what had to happen first.Inch by inch, anything's a cinch. How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. Decide what comes first, put a date on it, and you've turned a mountain into a next step.Start it: The launch is the hard part.Here's the most honest thing I can tell you about motivation. Most of the time when we say "I can't," what we really mean is "I don't want to." Be honest enough to know the difference. Some days you just have to get tough with yourself and do it whether you feel like it or not.Because here's the secret of success in one sentence: Successful people have developed the habit of doing things unsuccessful people don't feel like doing.Give it five minutes.When a task feels too big, I play a game with myself. I call it the Five-Minute Game. I tell myself, "I don't want to do this, but I'll give it five minutes." Almost every time, once I get going, it's not nearly the deal I thought it was.I've written books that way. I'd roll a blank sheet into the typewriter, type "My Next Book, by Rick Warren," and pull it back out. Sometimes that's all I did. Then I got up and walked away. But I'd started. Once the rocket is off the launch pad, the rest gets easier. How many projects have sat around your house for six months until the day you finally did one and thought, "Why did I wait? That took 25 minutes."Don't wait until it's perfect.Perfectionism produces procrastination. It paralyzes you. We tell ourselves, "If I can't do it well, I won't do it at all." But very few things in this world are ever perfect. If it's worth doing, do it, whether you do it perfectly or not. Give yourself the right to make mistakes, and you'll stop letting indecision freeze you in place.Sustain it: Keep your own fire burning.Starting is one battle. Staying motivated over the long haul is another. A few things keep me going.Remember the payoff. When my mind isn't there after a long week, I ask myself, "How am I going to feel when this is finished? What's it going to accomplish?" The Bible says Jesus endured the cross because he looked to the joy beyond it. Much of ministry is mundane, and you do it for the result, not the thrill.Stay optimistic. Optimism creates energy. The person who says "I can" and the person who says "I can't" are both right. I've walked into church sure I wouldn't make it through the day, then reminded myself, "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me" (Philippians 4:13 NKJV). Tell yourself you can.Don't carry it alone. If a big task is all on you, you'll probably put it off. Get a partner. "Two are better than one. . . . A cord of three strands is not quickly broken" (Ecclesiastes 4:9, 12 NIV). If you schedule time with someone to complete a task together, you're far more likely to actually do it.I keep a running list of one-liners taped where I can see them when I need a nudge:Do the worst first. Doing beats stewing. If not today, when? Winners don't wait. Beginning is half done. Choose this day to use this day.So get started.Pick the one ministry task you've been avoiding this week. Don't wait until you feel like it. Get it out of your head and onto paper. Give it five minutes, and let your own motivation do the rest. Nothing you do in the Lord's service is ever without value, and the fire you keep burning is the one your people will catch.
When You Can't Make Yourself Start

Lead from Grace
“I no longer count on my own righteousness through obeying the law; rather, I become righteous through faith in Christ. For God’s way of making us right with himself depends on faith.” Philippians 3:9 (NLT)Pastor, few people are more tempted to earn God’s love than you are.You spend your week measuring outcomes. Attendance. Giving. Who showed up, and who slipped away. From there it’s a short step to measuring your standing with God by the same numbers.But realizing there’s nothing you can do to make God love you more is one of the most liberating truths you’ll ever preach. It’s also one of the hardest to believe for yourself.The Living Bible paraphrase says, “We Christians glory in what Christ Jesus has done for us and realize that we are helpless to save ourselves” (Philippians 3:3).Every time you forget that and start thinking you have to earn God’s love by your work in the pulpit or your numbers on Monday, that’s legalism. And it will quietly rob you of joy.Legalism is trusting in what you can do for God instead of trusting in what Jesus has already done for you. For a pastor, it usually hides behind other things. Harder work, longer hours, one more sermon, one more meeting. And slowly your sense of being loved starts to rise and fall with your last result.Paul knew how to relax in grace. He said, “I no longer count on my own righteousness through obeying the law; rather, I become righteous through faith in Christ” (Philippians 3:9 NLT). The way you earn God’s love is this: You don’t. It’s not about your performance; it’s about his pardon.How do you know when you’ve slipped into legalism? You get critical. When you don’t feel accepted and loved yourself, it’s easier to be hard on the volunteer who let you down, the board member who pushed back, or the church down the street that’s growing faster than yours.How do you know you’re living by grace? You’re gracious with the people you lead. You forgive more easily because you remember how often God forgives you. And because you’re not trying to earn your way to heaven, or prove your worth by Sunday, you can finally relax. In fact, the more you live by grace and lead from grace, the more joy you’ll have. Tomorrow morning, before you answer a single email, remind yourself: “Lord, today I’m thankful that I am completely forgiven. There’s nothing I can do to make you love me more. And there’s nothing I could do that would make you love me less.”
Lead from Grace

Five Responses to Recover from a Failure
Some days in ministry feel like Job 17:11: “My days are gone, and my plans have been destroyed, along with the desires of my heart” (NCV). You had a plan. You did the prep. You prayed. And then it still didn’t go the way you hoped.When that happens, the slide can be quick: defeat, then disappointment, then discouragement, then depression (What’s the use?), and then despair (Why keep serving?).If you’ve worked with people for any length of time, you’ve learned this the hard way: Jesus won’t let you down, but people will; sometimes you’ll even let yourself down. That acknowledgment doesn’t make you bitter. It makes you honest.Failure isn’t a surprise in ministry. It’s part of the training. The question isn’t whether you’ll ever fail. The question is what you do next.Here are five responses that help you recover without letting a failure take you out.1. Admit it; don’t deny it.One of the fastest ways to get stuck is pretending nothing happened.The Living Bible paraphrase says, “A man who refuses to admit his mistakes can never be successful. But if he confesses and forsakes them, he gets another chance” (Proverbs 28:13).Admitting it doesn’t mean you’re disqualified. It means you’re honest.Try saying it out loud—at least to God, and to the right people:“I blew it.”“That didn’t work.”“I made a bad call.”You’ll feel the pressure drop the moment you stop fighting reality.2. Learn from it; don’t waste it.You can’t always prevent failure, but you can refuse to waste it.James 1:3–6 reminds us that rough roads grow patience and character—and that when we don’t know what to do next, God isn’t stingy with wisdom.When something falls apart, slow down and ask:What was I assuming?What did I ignore?What warning signs were there?What should I do differently next time?Sometimes failure forces you to get creative. Sometimes it forces you to re-evaluate. Sometimes it finally gets you quiet enough to listen to God.But here’s the point: If you don’t learn from a failure, you usually have to repeat the mistake.3. Let God redeem it; don’t believe it’s beyond repair.Here’s a grace-filled truth many leaders forget: God can take your greatest failure and turn it into your greatest strength.It’s not that God approves of the failure. It’s that God is not trapped by it. Scripture is full of leaders who didn’t just stumble; they cratered. And God still used them.If you’ve ever thought, “After what happened, I’m done,” remember this:God has a long history of rebuilding leaders.God has a long history of turning wounds into ministry.If you’ve failed publicly, you may need to rebuild trust slowly. If you’ve failed privately, you may need to confess and get help. Either way, redemption is not theoretical. It’s what God does.4. Refuse to make it final; don’t quit.Romans 8:28 doesn’t call failure “good.” But it does promise that God can work even the painful parts for good when you love him and keep walking in his plan.Failure becomes final when you stop getting back up.“You’re never a failure until you quit” is not just motivational talk; it’s spiritual reality. The enemy would love to take one hard season and turn it into a permanent identity.So if you’re in a rough stretch right now, hold onto this:Your story is still being written.Your calling is not erased by one chapter.The Lord is not finished with you.5. Get up and start again; don’t stay on the ground.Philippians 3:13 is one of the most hopeful passages for leaders who feel behind. Here’s how the Living Bible paraphrase puts it:“I am still not all I should be, but I am bringing all my energies to bear on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead . . .”That doesn’t mean you rush back into the same patterns.It means you stand back up with humility and direction:You confess what needs confessing.You repair what can be repaired.You accept what can’t be changed.You take the next faithful step.Sometimes starting again is rebuilding a relationship. Sometimes it’s restarting a habit. Sometimes it’s returning to ministry after you’ve been knocked down. But it’s always the same spiritual posture: knocked down, not knocked out.If you’re carrying failure like a verdict, don’t. Let it be a teacher, not a label.Admit what’s true. Learn what you can. Let God redeem what feels wasted. Refuse to quit. Then take one clear next step. Today. That’s how leaders recover. Not by pretending it didn’t happen, but by getting back up and walking forward a little wiser than they were before.
Five Responses to Recover from a Failure

The Courage to Receive Counsel
“Stupid people always think they are right. Wise people listen to advice.” (Proverbs 12:15 (GNT)One of the hardest parts of leadership is this: You can love Jesus, love people, and still have blind spots.Some of those blind spots are obvious to everyone else. Some of them show up only under pressure: when you’re tired, when you’re criticized, when you’re under more stress than you can reasonably carry. And a few of them aren’t just unseen; they’re uninvited. You may not want to notice them, because noticing would mean changing.That’s one of the quiet mercies of God: He doesn’t leave pastors alone with themselves. He places people near us who can tell us the truth.Not the kind of “truth” that’s really just frustration or opinion. The kind that’s loving, specific, and aimed at our growth. The friend who says, “I think you’re discouraged, and it’s influencing how you’re leading others.” The spouse who says, “You’re present in the room, but you’re not really here.” The elder who asks, “Are you still praying like someone who needs God, or only planning like someone who needs control?”If nobody can speak honestly into your life, you’ll make avoidable mistakes. Not because you’re a bad leader, but because you’re a human leader. Isolation doesn’t protect you; it blinds you.So start your Monday with this question: Who has permission to tell you the hard thing?And just as important: Are you building the kind of relationships where that’s safe? If your circle only tells you what you want to hear, you may need to widen the circle—or deepen it.Proverbs says the wise listen to advice. Wisdom isn’t just what you preach; it’s what you’re willing to receive.Speaking truth takes courage. Receiving truth takes humility. Both are important elements of spiritual maturity and leadership.Pastor, if you want to be really brave this week, consider asking one trusted person in your life: “What’s one blind spot you think I might be missing right now?”
The Courage to Receive Counsel