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“Jesus often slipped away to be alone so he could pray.” Luke 5:15–16 (NCV)Pastor, after a full Sunday of preaching, praying, counseling, and carrying the needs of others, Monday can feel strangely quiet.And strangely heavy.In a world of constant pressure and ministry demands, prayer is more than a discipline; it’s your lifeline.Jesus understood that. The Gospels show him repeatedly stepping away from the noise and expectations to be alone with the Father. “Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where he prayed” (Mark 1:35 NIV). And Luke tells us this wasn’t occasional—it was his rhythm. Crowds grew. Needs multiplied. But “Jesus often slipped away to be alone so he could pray” (Luke 5:15–16 NCV).If the Son of God needed unhurried time with the Father, how much more do you?You may think, I don’t have time. The meetings are waiting. The emails are stacking up. Next Sunday is already coming.But you have nothing lasting to give your church if you’re running on empty.God doesn’t just call you to shepherd others. He calls you to let him shepherd you.“Be still and know that I am God” (Psalm 46:10 NCV). Stillness isn’t weakness. It’s trust. It’s the quiet confession that God is God—and you are not.So carve out a small space today. Not to prepare a message. Not to plan a strategy. Just to listen.Sit before God and ask, “Father, what do you want to say to me?”You may sense a gentle nudge. A Scripture coming to mind. A quiet correction. Or simply a deep breath of peace that reminds you you’re not carrying this ministry alone.And if worry crowds your thoughts—about your family, church attendance, leadership conflicts, finances—let God redirect your attention to his Word. Anchor your mind there instead of spiraling through scenarios.Pastor, God wants to speak to you. Not just through you. He isn’t waiting for you to perform. He’s inviting you to be present. Step away for a moment. Let him refill what Sunday poured out.Then return to your calling, not depleted, but renewed.

Joining your church does not automatically make someone feel like they belong.People need more than their name on a membership roll. They need to feel welcomed, wanted, recognized, affirmed, and celebrated. They need to feel special.When a church is small, you may be able to do this informally. But as your church grows, you’ll need to create intentional moments that say publicly: “You are now one of us.”Celebrate New Beginnings PubliclyBaptism is an obvious example. When I was pastor at Saddleback, baptisms were always big celebrations—filled with laughter, applause, and shouts of joy. We took a photograph of each person just before baptism and later presented it in a beautiful leather-bound certificate. It became something people proudly displayed.When Saddleback was much smaller, we rented a nearby country club every three months and hosted a new members banquet. Each new member shared a brief testimony. Older members paid for their meals. I rarely made it through one of those evenings without tears. Hearing stories of changed lives reminds your church why it exists.For years, Kay and I hosted a monthly Pastor’s Chat in our home for new members and guests. It was simple hospitality—an opportunity to meet face-to-face and ask questions. Those evenings built hundreds of lasting relationships.Hospitality grows a healthy church.There are many simple ways to make members feel special:Send birthday cardsRecognize first anniversaries of membershipCelebrate life events in your newsletterFeature testimonies in servicesHold staff receptionsReturn a “We prayed for you” note in response to prayer requestsThe point is this: A warm handshake at the end of a service is not enough to help someone feel like they truly belong.Create Opportunities for Real RelationshipsRelationships are the glue that holds a church together.Research shows that the more friends a person has in a congregation, the less likely they are to become inactive or leave. In one survey of 400 church dropouts, more than 75 percent said they left because they didn’t feel anyone cared whether they were there or not.It’s a myth that people must know everyone in the church to feel connected. The average church member knows about 67 people, whether the church has 200 or 2,000 attending. A member doesn’t have to know everyone. But they do have to know someone.While some friendships form naturally, the friendship factor in assimilation is too important to leave to chance. You can’t just hope people make friends. You must encourage it, plan for it, structure for it, and facilitate it.Emphasize the Corporate Nature of the Christian LifePastor, continually emphasize that we belong together.Preach it. Teach it. Talk about it one-on-one.We need each other. We are a family. We are connected. We are one body.When people feel special and supported, they stay. And when they stay, they grow.Belonging doesn’t happen accidentally. It happens because leaders make it a priority. It happens because someone notices the newcomer. Because someone makes the call. Because someone plans the event. Because someone creates the space for friendships to form.You can’t force fellowship, but you can cultivate it.And when you do, you’ll build more than programs. You’ll build a church family where people don’t just attend; they belong.This article is adapted from chapter 17 of The Purpose Driven Church.

Conflict happens. There’s no avoiding it. It shows up at work, at school, in our homes—and, yes, even in the church.Many people try to ignore conflict, hoping it will just go away. It won’t. Ignoring conflict doesn’t eliminate it; it allows it to grow.Pastor, when conflict surfaces in your ministry, you have to deal with it head-on—and deal with it quickly. Letting conflict fester is a costly mistake.“If you become angry, do not let your anger lead you into sin and do not stay angry all day. Don’t give the devil a chance” (Ephesians 4:26–27 GNT).That verse surprises some people. They ask, “Is it ever right for a Christian to be angry?” The answer is yes. Jesus became angry—and Jesus never sinned. There are times when anger is appropriate.The issue isn’t whether you feel anger. The issue is what you do with it.The Wrong Kind of AngerThe wrong kind of anger is unresolved anger. Scripture warns us not to let anger linger. When anger hangs on, it turns into resentment—and resentment hardens into bitterness. Bitterness is always sin.Anger itself can be an appropriate response. If you love people, you will sometimes feel anger when you see them hurting themselves or others. But the Bible is clear: Deal with it quickly.Unresolved conflict creates enormous stress. Many leaders carry pressure that isn’t coming from their workload—it’s coming from conflict they’ve avoided addressing.The Only Way to Resolve ConflictHere’s the solution—and you may not like it: confrontation.There is no way around it. If you want to resolve conflict, you must confront it. That doesn’t mean confronting in anger. It means lovingly addressing the issue, speaking the truth in love, and doing it promptly.Most people hate confrontation. The only ones who enjoy it are troublemakers. But avoiding confrontation doesn’t bring peace—it postpones peace.When confrontation is necessary, Scripture gives us clear guidance: “Everyone must be quick to listen, but slow to speak and slow to become angry” (James 1:19 GNT).Those are the three rules for confrontation. If you listen first and speak carefully, anger naturally loses its grip.As you listen, try to hear the hurt behind people’s difficult behavior. Hurting people hurt people. When you understand someone’s pain, patience grows—and patience opens the door to resolution.Doing Your PartThe Bible also reminds us that peace has limits. “As far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone” (Romans 12:18 NIV).You are responsible for your part—not someone else’s. When you lovingly address the issue and speak truth with grace, you’ve done what God asks. The rest belongs to the other person.Conflict doesn’t disappear on its own. But when you face it with humility, honesty, and love, God can use it to bring healing, growth, and even deeper unity in your ministry.And that’s all God asks of you.

“Don't worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today.”Matthew 6:34 (NLT)Pastor, one of the mercies God gives us is that the future doesn’t arrive all at once.If you could see every sermon, every decision, every conflict, every joy, and every disappointment of your entire ministry laid out in advance, it would be overwhelming. So God gives life—and leadership—to you in manageable portions, one day at a time.Since God gives you only one day at a time, that’s how he expects you to live and lead. Faithfulness today is enough.Jesus said, “Don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today” (Matthew 6:34 NLT). In other words, stop borrowing trouble from the future. If something is coming next week, don’t let it steal today’s strength.Worry doesn’t change yesterday. It can’t control tomorrow. It only drains today.God gives you all the grace you need, but only enough for today. He doesn’t stockpile it for the next month or the next season of ministry. That’s why Jesus taught us to pray, “Give us this day our daily bread” (Matthew 6:11 ESV). Daily grace for daily obedience.When the future feels uncertain—attendance trends, finances, leadership decisions, the weight of people’s needs—you can still do what God is asking of you right now. Take care of today. Plan prayerfully for tomorrow, but don’t let tomorrow dominate your heart.One practical way to live this out is to limit the noise you allow into your soul. Constant media, endless opinions, and nonstop updates can quietly fuel pastoral anxiety. Instead, focus on what God has placed in front of you today—your walk with him and the people he’s entrusted to you right now.The Message paraphrase reminds us, “Don’t brashly announce what you’re going to do tomorrow; you don’t know the first thing about tomorrow” (Proverbs 27:1). That’s not a warning against planning—it’s an invitation to humility and trust.So here’s the posture for this Monday:Plan for tomorrow.Pray for tomorrow.But live faithfully today.God will give you everything you need to obey him, one day at a time.