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Psychology Today once asked 52,000 Americans, “What does it take to make you happy?” Their answers varied, but the interesting thing is that most of them dealt with external situations instead of internal issues. The popular idea of happiness involves having the right circumstances. It's what I call "when and then" thinking. When I get out of school, then I'll be happy. When I get a job, then I'll be happy. When I get married, then I'll be happy. When I have kids, then I'll be happy. When the kids leave home, then I'll be happy. Perhaps happiness isn't the goal. At least not the way most people think about the word happiness. Joy is a much better word because it describes a state we can choose regardless of our circumstances. Joy is a choice. You choose to be joyful—often in spite of your circumstances. Right now, regardless of what you are facing in your ministry, you're as joyful as you choose to be. Life is difficult. Parenting is difficult. Ministry is difficult! There are a lot of things that don't go right and don't go your way in life. If your joy in ministry depends on everything going your way, you’ll be miserable for much of your ministry. My wife, Kay, wrote in her book Choose Joy, "Joy is the settled assurance that God is in control of all the details of my life, the quiet confidence that ultimately everything is going to be all right, and the determined choice to praise God in all things." She's right. Real joy can be chosen, by faith, in any circumstance. Of course, the greatest instructions on how to be joyful can be found in the Sermon on the Mount. Jesus began his most famous message with eight ways to find joy and I believe the first one is the most important. Matthew 5:3 says, "Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven" (NIV). What does he mean by "the poor in spirit"? Jesus was talking about humility. What does it mean to be poor in spirit? It simply means to be totally dependent on God. That is true humility: admitting that I don't have it all together, that I haven't arrived, that I haven't learned it all, that I'm a long way from perfection, and that I'm not God! Joy and humility go together! They're twins; soul mates. If you want to have lasting joy—in life and ministry—then you need to learn true humility. How can humility increase my happiness?

Humility reduces stress.

When I'm humble I don't have to have all the answers; I realize that the world, or even the church I pastor, does not depend on me for its existence. Humility allows me to resign as general manager of the universe. I let God be God. When I choose to humble myself, I am able to live with the tension between the real and the ideal—my ideal for my marriage, my kids, and my ministry, as opposed to the way things really are right now. You will always have that tension. Humility is accepting life with gratitude even though things aren't perfect. Did you know that the words human, humanity, humor, and humility all come from the same root word? Humility is, in essence, being in touch with your humanity. It is having a realistic view of both your strengths and weaknesses. Humility is also not taking yourself too seriously. Humble people can laugh at themselves. Prideful people often are humorless people. They are too impressed with themselves or too insecure to let down and laugh at themselves. I’ve noticed that pastors can be particularly susceptible to over-inflating our importance. We can take ourselves way too seriously, and we don't take God seriously enough. That is the source of so much stress in ministry. You spend so much emotional energy trying to impress people with your importance, your spirituality, or your knowledge that you feel drained all the time. On the other hand, when you walk in humble dependence upon the Lord, your stress goes down, and your joy goes up.

Humility improves relationships.

No one enjoys being around arrogant people. Selfish, self-absorbed people are an irritation. They wreck relationships and destroy fellowship. Because self-centered people are unhappy, they make everybody else unhappy, too. On the other hand, all of us love being around genuinely humble individuals. When you are humble, you get along better with other people. Humility doesn't mean you think less of yourself; you just think more about others! And when you become interested in others, you become interesting to others! When you’re poor in spirit, it reduces your stress and improves your relationships because you are more likely to ask forgiveness when you are wrong. You don't have to be right all the time. It's easier for you to say the two hardest words, "Forgive me" or the three hardest words, "I was wrong" or the four hardest words, "I need your help." St. Francis of Assisi had an unusual method of maintaining humility. In his memoirs, he said anytime someone praised him, in order to stay humble, he would have a fellow monk sit down and tell him all his faults. Of course, the reason he had to ask a fellow monk was because he never married! Actually, it is not your wife’s job to keep you humble. That’s your job! Humility is a choice. Ruth Graham said about her husband, Billy Graham: "My job is to love Billy; God's job is to keep him humble." But God only steps in to humble us when we have failed to humble ourselves. Over and over again in the Scriptures we are told to “humble ourselves.” Again, humility is a choice—to think of others instead of yourself. I've discovered when I'm walking humbly before the Lord, just being who God made me to be and depending upon God, I'm almost immune to insults. They don’t bother me but pass through me because my focus is on pleasing the Lord, not gaining the approval of others. Whenever I become extra sensitive to criticism, it's a sign that I’ve stopped walking in humility.

Humility releases God's power.

Humility releases God's power in your life. James 4:6 says, "God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble" (NLT). Would you like to have God's grace poured out in your life and ministry? The secret of spiritual power is to walk humbly before the Lord, focusing on others and depending on God. I often pray a particular prayer on my way to church. I offer my resignation to God: "God, you have used me in the past, but I never presume upon your graciousness. Whatever will bring you the most glory is exactly what I want.” Then I recommit my life to the Lord and ask him to empower me. I have a memorized list of affirmations and confessions that I pray, but the bottom line is that I humble myself before the Lord in solitude. If you have to prepare and preach fresh messages on a regular basis, you already know how essential it is to express total dependence upon God. Nobody can possibly meet all the different needs in a typical congregation. But God can. God’s power is seen in your life not because of who you are but because of who God is! The secret of strength is admitting your weakness. The secret of power is admitting helplessness. The secret of joy is humility. And the secret of victory is total surrender to God. I urge you to get alone with God right now, choose to humble yourself, and say, "God, as your humble servant I surrender my will completely to yours. Please help me!" There's nothing God won't do for that kind of person! The kingdom of heaven will be yours.

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What to Do When You Feel Taken for Granted

Pastor, it doesn’t take long in ministry to realize that people have short memories. One day you’re leading someone to Christ; the next day they’ve left for the new church down the street. One Sunday someone tells you they loved the sermon; by midweek they can’t remember what it was about. After a while, you can start to feel invisible—taken for granted.That experience isn’t new. The Israelites had a short memory when it came to Moses. Just three days after the Red Sea miracle—at the very first sign of trouble—they started doubting his leadership. If that happened to Moses, it can certainly happen to you.We live in a what‑have‑you‑done‑for‑me‑lately world. Children forget what their parents have done for them. Bosses forget what their employees have done for them. Spouses take each other for granted. And people in your church can forget your love and sacrifice too.So what do you do when you feel taken for granted in ministry? Moses gives a great example of what to do with your hurt.1. Don’t curse it.When Moses heard the Israelites grumble, it would have been natural to respond in anger. Most of us would have done that. But Moses didn’t. Revenge just wasn’t an option.When people don’t appreciate you, choose not to strike back. Leave your frustration in God’s hands. When you let God settle the score, you are well represented. “Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse” (Romans 12:14 NASB).Instead of cursing those who forget you, speak positively about them. Ask God to bless them, even when they’ve hurt you.2. Don’t rehearse it.Every time you review the hurt you feel when you’ve been taken for granted, it gets bigger. If you’ve served someone selflessly and then they criticize you, it hurts. But if you’re not careful, that hurt will quickly grow out of proportion.Notice that Moses never kept going back over the pain. He focused on the future. Rehearsing pain is a dangerous habit in ministry because soon you’re addicted to it. I’ve met some very bitter pastors who allowed experiences of their past to color their perception until they thought everybody was against them. You can’t allow that to happen.3. Don’t nurse it.Don’t allow yourself to hold a private pity party. It’s okay to be angry for a moment. Anger is a legitimate response to hurt. But holding on to anger becomes sin. “Don’t get so angry that you sin. Don’t go to bed angry, and don’t give the devil a chance” (Ephesians 4:26–27 CEV).If you are a leader, you can expect to be misunderstood. It’s a fact of leadership. If you choose not to take the disappointment personally, you’ll avoid becoming cynical.What to Do Instead When You Feel ForgottenSo, what should you do when you feel forgotten and taken for granted? Moses and Joseph in the Old Testament show us a better way.First, share your pain with God.Often we go to the wrong people with our pain. We go to the people who’ve mistreated us and remind them of their oversight—or we complain to others and spread our hurt. Instead, take your pain to God. He can take whatever you dish out to him. He understands what it feels like to be rejected and forgotten.Pour out your frustration honestly in prayer. Tell God exactly how you feel. He already knows anyway.Second, expect God to reverse your disappointment.God is the master of reversing hurts. Remember the story of Joseph in the Old Testament? Joseph’s brothers sold him into slavery. Then, 20 years later, he was able to say, “You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives” (Genesis 50:20 NIV).Joseph had every reason to be cynical. His own family had sold him out. But he wasn’t cynical. He trusted that God was working for good behind the scenes.Moses had a similar experience. The people had been whining and complaining because they didn’t have water—and when they did get water, it was bitter. But where did God lead them after that? He led them to a place of abundant water. God reversed the situation and showed his goodness.Pastor, God can do the same with the way you’ve been treated in ministry. What others forget, God remembers. What others overlook, God will one day honor.Friend, I don’t know how you’ve been taken for granted in ministry. But I do know this: God has not forgotten you. He’s seen every act of service. He’s watched every time you’ve faithfully prepared a message. He has walked into the room of the dying person with you. He’s listened as you’ve prayed for the direction of your church. He’s seen your secret acts of service.Others may take you for granted, but God doesn’t. And in the end, his “Well done” is the only approval that really matters.

How to Lead Faithfully in God’s Waiting Room

Every pastor will spend time in God’s waiting room. You pray for a breakthrough—a stronger team, a new building, spiritual renewal—and nothing seems to move. You wonder, “God, why the delay?”If that’s where you are, take heart: A delay is not a denial.God’s timing is perfect. He’s never early, never late, and always right on schedule. In the Living Bible paraphrase, God says, “These things I plan won’t happen right away. Slowly, steadily, surely, the time approaches when the vision will be fulfilled. If it seems slow, do not despair. . . . They will not be overdue a single day” (Habakkuk 2:3).God may not fulfill your vision immediately because he’s doing something bigger than you can see. While you’re waiting, he’s working—arranging circumstances, shaping your character, and preparing the blessings he intends to give.God’s Waiting Room Is a ClassroomEvery delay in your life is a test of your faith. “So Abraham received what God promised because he waited patiently for it ” (Hebrews 6:15 GW). The waiting revealed the kind of faith Abraham had—and God does the same with us.In the early years of Saddleback Church, I learned this lesson firsthand. For 15 years we met in borrowed buildings—79 different ones—before we ever built a permanent facility. More than 10,000 people were attending before we broke ground on our first building. Every setback was another opportunity to trust God’s timing rather than my own.I once thought the waiting was about property and permits, but God was after something deeper. He wanted to build people before buildings. He wanted to develop faith before foundations. Looking back, I can see that the delays strengthened our church far more than instant success ever would have.While You’re Waiting, God Is WorkingGod doesn’t waste delays. They’re not wasted time—they’re training time. The same God who made you a promise is shaping you into the kind of person who can handle its fulfillment.You may be waiting for growth in your congregation, for unity in your leadership, for revival in your city, or even for personal renewal in your own soul. Whatever the wait looks like, remember: God is never in a hurry, but he’s always on time.“Be still in the presence of the LORD, and wait patiently for him to act” (Psalm 37:7 NLT). When you learn to trust God’s pace, you discover that the waiting is not punishment—it’s preparation.Don’t Waste the WaitingWaiting doesn’t mean doing nothing. Keep praying, keep serving, keep believing. Use the delay to deepen your roots. While you’re waiting for God to act around you, let him work within you.Moses spent 40 years in the desert before leading Israel out of Egypt. Joseph spent years in prison before fulfilling his dream. Even Jesus spent 30 years in preparation for three years of ministry. Waiting time is never wasted time when God is involved.God’s Delays Have a PurposeYou may not understand why God seems to be taking his time. But you can be sure of this: He’s weaving every detail together for his glory and your growth. What looks like a delay may be God’s way of preparing you for something far better than you imagined.At Saddleback, I saw God turn disappointment into direction, change closed doors into new opportunities, and grow long seasons of waiting into testimonies of his perfect timing. The same God who guided us will guide you.So if you’re in God’s waiting room today, don’t lose heart. Don’t waste the waiting. Let God use it to stretch your faith, shape your character, and strengthen your ministry. He’s never late, and when the time is right, the vision he’s placed in your heart will come to pass—right on schedule.

Five Ways to Slow Down Before You Burn Out

There have been times when I thought I was too busy to take time off. It never worked.You don’t have to be a prophet to know that technology has made three things happen in the world: It has made the world smaller, more complex, and faster. You live a much faster lifestyle than your parents did. Your children will live an even faster lifestyle than you do.As you and I know, pastors aren’t immune to these time pressures. With meetings, ever-shrinking sermon preparation time, and a crowded pastoral care schedule, our office calendars can stay full if we’re not careful. Then we get home and rush our kids to after-school events, grab a quick dinner, run to the hospital, go home, jump in bed, and hope there are no late-night phone calls.We can identify with what a USA Today article once said about life for many people: “Today people are souped up, stressed out, and overscheduled. In this brave new world, boundaries between work and family are disappearing. Everybody is mobile, and every moment is scheduled.”The Bible tells us that hurry, worry, and scurry have dramatic negative effects on our lives and ministries. If you’re serious about slowing your life down to a more humane pace, you’re going to have to make five countercultural changes to your lifestyle.1. Learn contentment. It starts in the heart. Paul says this about contentment: “I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation” (Philippians 4:12 NIV). Contentment isn’t part of human nature—for pastors or for anyone else! We want life to be different—better. But we can’t slow down our lives unless we start being content with what we have.Contentment doesn’t mean you don’t want your church to grow. It doesn’t mean you don’t go after your God-given vision for your church. It just means a bigger church won’t make you any happier. Your relationship with Christ is where you find your true joy. Until you come to that conclusion, you won’t slow down.2. Obey the fourth commandment. Most of us would bristle if we were told that we were consistently breaking the Ten Commandments. But, pastor, many of us are. Remember the fourth commandment? We're supposed to take one day off every week. Are you doing that? For most of us, that’s not Sunday. We’re preaching, meeting with people, and overseeing worship services—we’re not resting. It doesn’t matter which day it is, but we need a day off.During the times that I’ve worked constantly—without taking time off—things always just got worse. I became more irritated with my family. I became more tired. And I didn’t get as much done. It was so prideful of me to think that what I was doing at that moment was more important than listening to what God said about how he made me.I know a pastor who had a church member get mad at him because he tried to call him several times on Monday and couldn’t get ahold of him. The pastor said, “Sorry, but that’s my day off.” The member said, “The devil doesn’t take a day off.” And the pastor replied, “You’re right. And if I didn’t, I’d be just like the devil.”3. Pause and pray before deciding. Stop and pray about the decisions you make on a regular basis. That doesn’t mean you wait a year before deciding something. I’m talking about 10 to 15 seconds. As you sit in an elders’ meeting or a counseling session, ask, “God, what do you want me to do in this instance?”How does this help you slow down? You’re pausing to get perspective. Perspective is what helps you make wise decisions. Most of us just want to make decisions faster, but it’s perspective that really makes better decisions.4. Learn to say no. You can’t keep adding things to your schedule without eliminating other things. Every time you add a new activity to your schedule, you need to take something else off the calendar. Whenever I used to see one of my mentors, Peter Drucker, he would say, “Don’t tell me what new thing you’re doing. Tell me what you’ve stopped doing.” The mark of leadership is knowing what not to do.Most of us have a hard time saying no to opportunities. So ask yourself two questions every time you’re given a new opportunity:Is it worth it? With every opportunity, you need to ask yourself whether it’s worth your energy, effort, reputation, and ultimately, your time. Your time is your life, and you need to decide whether the new opportunity is worth a portion of your life.What am I going to give up? You can’t just keep adding, adding, and adding. You have to give something up to take hold of a new opportunity. What will it be?5. Trust God’s timing. Impatience is often why we hurry. But impatience is simply a lack of trust. When you’re impatient, you’re saying, “God, I don’t really trust you. I don’t think you have my best interest at heart. You don’t know when I need it, and I’m in a hurry.” Is fast always better? No, it’s not.God has a plan for your life. You know that. But he also has a timetable for your life—and for your church, for that matter. Unfortunately, God never explains his timetable. And that can be frustrating! At Saddleback, we waited for years to get our own land and our own building. I couldn’t understand God’s timing. But God knew exactly what he was doing. Our church campus is visible from one of the busiest freeways in our community—a freeway that didn’t exist when we first started looking for land. That’s God’s timing.It’s painful when you’re in a hurry and God’s not. But it’s part of maturing and growing up. Children have to learn the difference between “no” and “not yet,” and we have to learn that too as we follow God’s lead. God knows the right time and the right way. He has a plan and a timetable.Ministry is not a sprint; it’s a marathon. God doesn’t want you to burn out. Whether you’re 30 or 70, he has purposes he wants to complete through you—and burnout won’t help you be ready for that work. Learning to slow down might be the most important ministry skill you learn this year.

Lead without Fear—the Lord Is for You

“The LORD is for me, so I will have no fear. What can mere people do to me?” (Psalm 118:6 NLT)Pastor, God is calling you to be a promise person—someone who chooses to focus on him and his promises even when ministry gets tough.If you’re leading anything that truly matters, criticism will come. People may misunderstand your decisions, question your motives, or resist your leadership. It’s part of shepherding people toward spiritual growth.But you don’t have to focus on the naysayers or the challenges that come with leadership. Focus instead on the Lord and his promises.Jesus modeled this perfectly: “When they hurled their insults at him, he did not retaliate; when he suffered, he made no threats. Instead, he entrusted himself to him who judges justly” (1 Peter 2:23 NIV).When criticism comes, resist the urge to defend yourself or vent your frustration. Instead, entrust yourself—and your ministry—to God. Pray, “Lord, I know you love me. I know you called me. I’m going to trust you with both the work and the outcome.”That’s the kind of mindset David had when he wrote, “The LORD is for me, so I will have no fear. What can mere people do to me?” (Psalm 118:6 NLT). You don’t need anyone else’s approval to keep serving faithfully. The Lord is for you, and his opinion is the one that matters most.In the Message paraphrase, David says, “I’ve banked your promises in the vault of my heart” (Psalm 119:11). That’s the secret to staying steady when criticism or fatigue sets in: Keep storing up God’s promises until they outweigh the voices of doubt.So this week, take time to meditate on God’s promises. Write them down. Memorize them. Remind yourself that your worth and success come from his call, not from anyone’s applause.The Lord is for you. Trust his promises—and lead with courage and peace.

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